Need help with 4 year old?

Question

I'm not sure what to do? He screams at us, calls names like (meanie-fcker-b*tch) when my husband tried to disipline him, he has started to bite, hit, scratch, and talk back. He was never like this before! He gets mad so fast and easy. He was always so well behaved before, is this a normal 4 year old thing? I've tried time-out, spanking (dont want to hear how bad it is), sent to bed, taking toys away, what else can I do and why is he such a monster. He will even kick and scream and bite me when I have to drag him to time out, HELP!!!

Answer 1

My 5 year old is the same way. It got so bad I had to put him in therapy. He doesn't cuss but he does talk back and all the other stuff you said. The only thing I can say is when he gets all worked up the best thing for you guys to do as parents is keep calm don't let him see how upset you are getting. Also don't give in to what he wants. Keep consistent on the punishments. I can honestly say though that therapy has helped my son.

Answer 2

No,  this  is  out of  control.  Some  tamtrums  are expected but this  is  very bad as  I see it.  Has  he  been  tested  for  food allergy,  ADD or  anything  like  that?  I  would  ask  a  Dr  also.

Either  its  physical  or  something  is  bothering  him  mentally that he  is  unable to  express.  Sorry  but I  feel  red  flag  alert on this.   *mamatx

Answer 3

Your discipline sounds right. Stay consistent!!!!!!!!

Make sure you reward and praise him when he does well. Also make sure he is getting enough one on one time with both parents. To make sure he is not acting out to gain attention.

Answer 4

oh wow all i can say is lay down the law & tell him if he's bad no *insert fave thing to do or eat here* or a certain reward for bneing good if he can be good. Id say maybe ice cream from Dq once a week if he gets 7 stars or stickers etc.. you know just make up something. My son is 3 & I hope he dont do that eeks!

Answer 5

I find that if you give him a big reaction, he will continue.

keep your punishments short and sweet.

when he yells or kicks. look at him calmly and say "we do not say those kind of thing". send him to his room. If he fights, calmly restrain him and send him to his room. if you have to shut the door until he calms then tell him to apologize.

dont fight to much with the apology. you dont want a power struggle.

when kids do this they are looking for attention. If the whole family gets in an uproar over the cursing,  he is getting his way! attention (negative or positive) is they same to any child.

Answer 6

Children are sponges...they soak-up everything around them. With that said, do you act or speak this way around him? Has he recently changed day-care or babysitters? Children can sense stress & they will act out because of it. First, locate the trigger for the change, then seek help.

Answer 7

Nanny to the rescue

Answer 8

Stay consistant with discipline...I would tell him that we don't talk like that, and put him in his room for some time alone to think about what he has done and making him apologize to you after he's had some quiet time to himself. Do your best not to react to his outbreaks, kids are so good at knowing what makes you angry and they will keep doing it knowing it upsets you. I am sure it's just a phase and will grow out of it soon.  Good luck, and hang in there!

Answer 9

Maybe call Nanny 911....seriously...

Answer 10

Uhhh....where did he pick up that saying??? No its not normal if its happening all of a sudden. Try to talk to him about it and see if he can tell you why he's so angry.

Answer 11

Something is seriously wrong.  I have never in my life heard a 4 year old use such bad words.  Obviously he is getting his language and his behavior from someone, in which case you need to find out who and keep him away from this person.  Shame on you for letting him hear such things.