Need help with daughter?

Question

The other day I was having a little play fight with my hubby and he had me in a big bear hug so my hand were free so I gave his family jewels a nice little squeeze, needless to say IT WORKED!! lol. he was ok though. but apparently my 12 year old daughter had walked in and on. and today her 15 year old brother was bossing her around and all of a sudden she punched him HIS family jewels, and he went to the ground immediately, I immediately yelled at her sent her to her room, and got my son some ice. What should I do about this situation, what should I tell my daughter about that part of a boy?

Answer 1

Trust me, she knew very well what she was doing before she saw you hit your man there. Just let her know that just cuz you can doesn't mean you should, and that that action is only for use in emergency situations, and her brother annoying her is NOT an emergency. :)

Answer 2

I always believe you should tell your kids the truth and 12 is old enough to tell her the facts and what is allowed and not allowed.

Don't think of this subject as some dirty little secret..just be open and honest!

Answer 3

well u should sit down with just u and her in the room and just have a talk about that kind of stuff  or u could do what my dad did and just give my a book and say what ever u want to no something u can look in here

Answer 4

I know its a touchy subject... but its part of growing up.  Just remember when explaining the opposite gender's atonomy, its part of education on life as well. Just get ready for other questions - if you have a well rounded relationship with her, she may ask.

I was uncomfortable at first when I had to "explain" things to my eldest, but it helped me keep an open mind.  It was kind of tough trying not to show my uneasiness, I admit!  (Its like, where's the little baby I once carried around???)

Perhaps start telling her about growing up, the difference between a boy and girl - in short YOUR version of "s*x education".  Ask her, too, on what she understands and feels about the topic - what she's taken up in school about it.  Be open about your feelings and concern. Explain to her when she can use the punch to the jewels and to whom.

Think about what and how you're going to talk to her regarding this.  But remember how you would react if you were your daughter.  As parents we forget we were once in their shoes.

Good luck!  Hope this helps...  :)

Oh, here's a link I hope that helps!

http://parenting.kaboose.com/age-and-sta...

Answer 5

Tell her the truth she can't be hitting boys there because then they won't be able to have children.. it's time for a little health class I believe she is old enough.

Answer 6

Yes tell her its better for her to know sooner than later and at least it will be you who tells her and not a freind hope i helped hun.

Answer 7

Yes, and the other things she needs to know about self defense  including the fact that that move is a lifesaver if she is attacked - really attacked.  

Answer 8

Maybe you should have your hubby handle this one. Since he is the culprit.

Answer 9

She is 12!!!!!! I knew all about that stuff at the age of 9!

Just tell her like it's common knowledge.

Answer 10

tell her that it hurts him

and she would't want to be hit would she?

just explain that its not okay

Answer 11

Maybe, try to expain to her how it hurts her when she gets hit or pushed in her girl parts(b*****s)  and just tell her that it hurts boys just as much...It is not a reaction she should take unless the situation is necessary.  

Answer 12

It wasn't your fault. By the time you are 12 years old, a kid knows very well what happens when you punch a guy there. Trust me! You don't need to tell her anything. Just say "violence is not the answer." But in some cases, it's great self defense. At my school, teachers tell us that if you ever need to use self defense against a guy, to punch him in the balls.

Answer 13

YOUR 12YEAR OLD DAUGHTER DOESNT KNOW ABOUT THAT PART OF THE BOY??? i think she needs to hear it, not because of this incident, but because she needs to be informed. but what i dont get is that puching a guy in his crotch has nothing to do with the birds and the bees, so why does she not know that a guy has a private part there?

Answer 14

about s*x maybe, if you havent already taught her about s*x, well your behind shes 12