Need help with my best friend...= [?

Question

My best friend really likes this guy, but i know he's just using her..shes only 14 and she's plannin to have s*x with him, im tryin to stop her from gettin hurt but she doesnt listen, she's certain that hes not using her...but i know the guy and he always talks to me about like he's gonna blow her off once he's screwed her...

what should i do? :S

Answer 1

Firstly, she is way way way too young to be even thinking about having s*x.  14- are you kidding me??

Have you tried to sit her down and tell her this?  That he has openly told you that he's not really interested but just fancies a quick leg over?  He clearly has no respect for her (and to be honest none for you either if he's telling you this stuff about your best frend).  If she's truly your best mate, tell her and suffer the consequences.  Worst case scenario she goes ahead, sleeps with his and ignores you and once he's done a runner she will come crying back to you expecting you to pick up the pieces.  Best case scenario she listens to you and does not get involved.

Please try and teach her some self respect as she clearly has none.

Good luck.

Answer 2

well how about this, try talking to this GUY seriously see if it'll work out..good luck hunnie  

Answer 3

Aww, you sound really sweet, and its good to her that you're concerned.

As a 13 year-old female, im very cautious about guys like that.

Did you mean GIRL here:

"My best friend really likes this GUY, but i know he's just using her..."

If its really urgent and he's going to use her soon, get something that will record sound (Phone, MP3 player, Camera, etc) and ask something like "Why are you using (insert girls name here) for s*x?" or "Why are you so obsessed with having s*x with (insert girls name here)and not her FEELINGS?!"

Make sure it will record loud enough, and dont make it obvious by changing your voice when asking, acting non-casual, wlaking away straight after his answer, etc.

Before showing this girl the voice clip, tell her first. If she denies that he's doing this, show her the tape.

Im very careful not to date anyone like this, and im sure it will never happen to me. I always listen to my friends, but obviously this girl does not. If he does use her for s*x, all i can say is that she's really REALLY stupid, and she sort of brought it upon herself to be so stubborn and 'easy'.

I really hope everything goes ok, and if she still doesnt listen, just say this "I REALLY pity you. I have been trying to tell you for so long that he is using you, but you dont listen. Dont come crying to me when he dumps you after s*x. J-just...just take my advice and do something about it"

Theres no need to yell this at her. As a girl, getting talked to about soemething serious hits home much better than getting it yelled at in my face.

Xx

Answer 4

If you really want to save her from regretting it later on, use drastic measures. Who can blame you for acting in her interest?

Tell an authority with power of your concerns so that they can prevent it from happening. When you can't control either of them, then the adult can try. Or talk to the girl and warn her of some possible consequences of doing it and ask if she's prepared to take all that in her own hands. Hopefully, it might spook her. But if she still goes ahead and does it anyway, she'll learn to not be so trusting and readily attached to someone who gives her the slightest attention.

Answer 5

talk to her and if she still don't listen let her learn the hard way  

Answer 6

i don't know what to say to that  

Answer 7

^_^ hmmm...hook her up?

kick the guys ***?

slap her? hahaha! jk.

-_- sneak into his house ninja style and steel all his condoms...

(but seriously)

^_^ stall, try to get them away from each other. for like a week, he'll get over her eventually.

Answer 8

relay to her, what he said to you.

Answer 9

say to her that who would you trust more your best friend that you've known for so many years or this guy who just is using you to get what he wants and if that doesn't work just say i don't care anymore if you don't believe your best friend you will never believe anyone.

Answer 10

OKAY first of all thats your BEST FRIEND don't let that boy talk about her like that..punch him in the face and tell him he is not going to even get near doing that and if your best friend doesnt believe what you tell her (which she should) then record him on your phone and let her listen to the trash he talking.... if all else fails and she has s*x with him anyway at least you can't say you didnt warn her buddy.

Answer 11

*** her first

Answer 12

hrmm thats kinda a hard question.

but if that was me i'd listen to you.

girls always hear what they wanna hear.

you probly going to have to try and explain to her that he told you he was going to use her. if she doesnt listen well i guess your going to have to let her do her own think. she'll make her own mistake. sorry bro thats all i got.