Need help with my wedding invitations on how to put need no gifts but do need money for honeymoon and etc.?

Question

Hello, I'm getting married on Oct. 11, 08 and I need help on how to tell my guest that we don't need gifts, but we do need money for the honeymoon etc.. the reason why we don't need gifts is because we both have everything and don't really need anything for the wedding. But we do need money, and I don't want to be rude and say we need money, I knew of someone putting it on their invitations saying please no gifts but will have money tree or something like that, does anyone have any suggestions on how to do this because I would like to say something on the invitations without sounding like we are begging for money. I would just like some advice on how you all would do it. and looking forward to hearing your ideas, thank you for your help, its very appreciated.

Answer 1

My husband and I did the same thing, we called it a treasure chest (but it can also be called a wishing well). We put a little card with a verse on it saying that money would be appreciated. You can find some really nice poems on the internet, like this one

We'd love to have you with us when all our dreams come true.

But at the risk of being bold we ask one thing of you.

We're both a trifle more mature than most who tie the knot

And consequently have most things younger folk do not.

We're on our way to <insert destination> for our honeymoon.

A holiday for us to share that hasn't come too soon.

So if you're thinking of a gift and don't know what to get.

A gift of cash would help us most and get us on that jet.

But most of all we'd love you there on our special date.

To share with us our happiness and help us celebrate.

Here are some good sites

http://www.salandras.com/Wishing%20Well%...

http://www.paperdesigninvitations.com.au...

Most people are very understanding of this, especially now when a lot of people have lived together before the wedding. We still did get some presents but the money made it a lot easier to enjoy our honeymoon.

Congratulations and enjoy your wedding day. Just remember to stop, breath, take it in and enjoy it. :D

Answer 2

I have a friend who is getting married in a month and was in the same situation.  They have lived together for many years & already have everything they need.  They just didn't register anywhere, and didn't include anything on the invitation about that.  When people look to see if they are registered they will find they are not.  If I were you, I would not list anything in your invitation about $.  That doesn't look the best, and guests will likely want to do the opposite because your being picky.  If you just don't register anywhere, people won't know what to get you & likely you'll get $.  

Answer 3

I don't think you can put this on the invitation. However, you can register at a travel agency and have people help with part of the honeymoon. Your guests might be more accepting of that "subtle" hint.  

Answer 4

you get these wishing well things these days, u put a little ryme in your invites

Because at first we lived in sin

We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin

A gift from you would be swell

But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!

Keeps it light hearted i think

Answer 5

We've chosen to do a treasure chest too. We have lived together for many years and have 2 children together. Its really no ruder than sending someone a piece of paper saying ''are you going to buy me the coffee machine or the cutlery?''

And just for the record, I couldn't care less about the thumbs down I'm about to get. Its MY wedding, not yours.

Answer 6

First of all....your invites should have gone out this past weekend.  It's 8 weeks away!

Second....PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE read all of the other questions like this!!  This question gets posted at least ONCE A WEEK!

Asking...begging....pleading....cute poems....little notes....they are ALL TACKY!!

You do not mention gifts (either a tangible gift OR money) on an invitation.  Case closed.

It's tacky, rude, and money grubbing.  

Go ahead and give me a thumbs down and choose one of the ones that say "go ahead...it's your day....do as you want."  I'm sure that is the answer you are looking for.

Answer 7

You do NOT put this on the invitation--it's very very tacky.  But people will ask you and your mom, etc. where you are registered, and that's

when it's ok to tell them, "We only registered for a couple of things

since we are already combining 2 households,..."   then if they

keep asking you can tell them that $ is what you'd really like.  

But a lot of people will be really offended by this.  Be prepared to

hear that it's tacky...  You will probably need to register for a few

things somewhere--don't you need to "upgrade" any of your stuff,

like ratty old towels, cheap silverware, ugly dishes, etc?

Answer 8

Do not put it in writing anywhere! It's beyond tacky to truly tasteless~! Use the family and friends grapevine that everyone has around them. It is the most effective way to get a point like this across without openly begging!

Answer 9

~~Just put "in lieu of gifts a money tree will be available"~~

Answer 10

Don't put it on the invitation. Let a few good friends and family members know, and let it spread by word of mouth. People will be asking about your registry - just let everyone know you need money. If you have a wedding website (you can get a free one through the Knot.com and lots of other places) put it there. After a bunch of people ask, of course. We put something on our website about how we had received so many questions about registration (we had), that we felt we should announce that if any gifts were given, we would greatly appreciate money or gift certificates to Home Depot or Bed, Bath, and Beyond. And that nothing was expected, and the best gift of all was everyone taking time to attend and share the day with us.

And watch all the thumbs-down come and people say it's "tacky" to ask for money! (Many of the same people will do Cash Dances at their receptions.)

Answer 11

You should NEVER put any mention of gifts (whether you are registered for typical wedding gifts or want cash) on a wedding invitation.  A wedding invitation is sent to request someone's presence to witness your special day, not to ask them for something in return.  (A gift is technically not MANDATORY from guests).

BUT, if you do want cash/a honeymoon in leu of boxed gifts, you need to tell your wedding party and parents; traditionally people contact these people to ask where you are registered (because that information should never be included in a wedding invitation).  If you do not register anywhere most people get the hint to give cash, or you could register for your honeymoon and then people will REALLY get the hint, and you won't seem rude or tacky by "out right" asking for cash.

Good Luck!  

Answer 12

Well, first of all, you should know that this question is asked here all the time. I will try to say nicely what other people will say not very nicely:

It is not proper etiquette and is considered rude to ask for cash from your guests. It is not up to them to pay for your honeymoon.

So, the suggestion that many people say is to just not register and most people will get the hint.

Good luck.

Edit: And, BTW, if you do put something in the invite about cash gifts being appreciated, just know that people will be talking behind your back about it and they may actually give less money than they would have if you didn't say anything. You aren't supposed to put anything about gifts in invite.