Need help with potty training my first child?

Question

Hey there. I have a son who I am potty training today. I have a very niggling issue. When I first tried to put him on it, he started crying like mad!... I didn't know what to do so I put on potty training pants on. But the thing is he is my first kid & is a boy so he's quite a slow learner. He can't even really talk even though I've been encouraging him by talking to him alot etc.. So maybe potty training is too early?? But anyways as being a first time mummy it's very difficult for me to make him understand that the potty is not a scary thing at all. I tried to encourage him to wee in the potty but it doesn't work whatsoever. I don't know if I should let him run around naked & give a lil naughty no no, that peeing on the floor is bad & bring him towards the potty & tell him gently this is where you wee wee. But I'm scared he may cry out loud again. I have no clue what to do. Please help me!

Answer 1

my son was 2 when i started him but before i properly started him i introduce the potty to just get him to sit on it, then i rewarded this behaviour with lots of praise,

I let him walk around with no pants on at home and its mainly about reminding him constantly  every time they drink  take them to the potty,( have you tried a potty that rewards with music fisher price does one)

accidents on the carpet will happen just say in a calm but slightly firmer voice,no wee wee on potty or something similar, I have done this with all four of my children and it has worked my youngest has just turned 3 and is dry all day and most nights good luck remember he will get there in the end

Answer 2

The first thing to remember is not for either you or even more importantly him, to get stressed about it.  You dont say how old your son is but it sounds like hes not ready.  There are no rules that says by a certain age your child should be out of nappies and I do think its right that girls are probably quicker!  If he is anxious and upset - leave it a couple of months and try again, my son was just turned 3 years when he got the idea but he hated the potty so we went straight on to the toilet - he thought it was great to be doing what mummy and daddy do - use the big toilet - you can buy a little step and a little seat to fit over the normal one and they feel grown up.  For boys you can even put a ping pong ball in the toilet and make it a game to see if he can aim to wee on it!  Lets face it, all males need a little help with aiming!  The ball wont flush away cos it just floats!  Anything to make it a bit more fun should get his interest - but wait til he's ready - it shouldnt be a battle!  Good luck x

Answer 3

he may just not be ready yet. my son is 3 1/2 and wears pants as he will wee on the toilet but still wants to use a nappy to poo. he seems alot later than somekids but who cares? he'll get there and won't still be wearing a nappy when he's 18!(hopefully!).

your son is probably just not ready yet and its best not to stress him out. it'll come when he's ready.

Answer 4

my son was 2 when i started him he was terrified of the potty wouldn't go near it so his dad done a wee in there he thought it was great and wasn't so scared anymore then we took him out and let him pick his fav character on the pants he wanted to buy and let him pay for them then when we got home we would say now dont get thomas (the tank engine) wet because he wont like it and might cry he was devestated when he wet and really tried to keep thomas dry it did work but he does have an older brother so he wanted out of nappies to be like him hope it works for you good luck

Answer 5

If he is still scared of the potty, can't stay dry for 2 hrs, can't communicate that he has to potty and can't pull his pants up and down on his own then he isn't ready yet.  Average age for a male to pottytrain is 3 1/2 to 4 years old.

Answer 6

He's scared because i'm guessing he hasn't been put on the potty from the very start... i'm sure you'd be scared too at his age of something new.

Let him sit on it fully clothed, and read him a story... gradually work on reducing the amount of clothing he has on when you do this.  This will help overcome his fear.

As long as it's warm enough, let him run around in pants, when he does a wee in them, put him on his potty to show him where to go.  Personally i wouldn't tell him off as you have to expect accidents to happen and you don't want him to get frightened.

Maj

Answer 7

Maybe he's not ready, But if you think he is, havin naked for a hour with you in the kitchen or somehere where the floor wont get ruined, with a potty, if he makes a mess clear it up and say calmly next time use the potty, He wont like the feeling of wetting himself so will start to get the idea. Most of all thro this stay calm and never tell him he's naughty if he has an accident, but praise him loads if he does wee in the potty.

Answer 8

Take your time, and don't rush it.  When I started potty training my first born i put him on the potty when i would draw a bath for him.  That got the flow going a little bit.  Then when he did go on the potty we made a really big deal about being a big boy.  He eventually started wanting to go more and more on it, and would even take his pull-ups off where ever he was to he didn't go in them.  You can introduce him to potty training and set up a little schedule for him to sit on the potty, but untimely it's up to him.

Answer 9

i am trying to train at moment my son is 2.. hated potty so i put the seat in big toilet and bought a sticker chart ....

works ok because he cant get down without my help !!!

if he does a wee/poo i go crazy clapping and cheering then he gets a sticker to put on chart !!!

seems to be working but cant tell me BEFORE he does a wee just as he is doing it so a bit late... accidents happen we just clean it up and say woopsie but not negative

i wouldnt force the isssue if he screaming he will just refuse more.

Good Luck

Answer 10

If he cannot verbally communicate to you that he has to use the potty, he is not ready. Pushing him to do it when he is not ready could make him regress and it will end up taking you longer to potty train him. He is still young. Most boys don't even START potty training until they are three years old.

Answer 11

Hi, i'm a mum myself with twin boys. I trained them when they were 2 years old, and it took only two days, honest! There are plenty ways to do it :

- explain him nicely that the potty is for him, show him when you go to toilet, and let him try  the potty at the same time. He is maybe scare to be in there alone !

- Go to the shop with him, and let HIM choose his own pants. Now that it is hot, let him in the house in pants like a big boy.

- Choose nice stickers, and each time he sit on the potty (even if he doesn't do nothing at first) give him a sticker.

- Keep your calm, show him that it doesn't matter if he has accidents, but make him realise that being wet is not much fun. He'll quickly understand that you've got a point

- if he doesn't want to sit to pee, try to pee stand up, like a big boy, often they prefer that way.

Good luck and let us know.