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My fiance wants us to move in with his mom.We have 2 kids together. The thing is she has 2 bedrooms for us. He wants to put me and the kids in 1 room and he sleeps in the other room. What do i need to do?

Answer 1

umm say no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! for sure

Answer 2

If you're not moving in with his mom for a financial reason then I don't see why you should be.  I don't know if he has mom issues or anything, but I'd definitely say don't move in.  Because if he wants to separate himself from you and the kids there has to be some underlying issue where maybe he's trying to distance himself from all three of you.

Ask him why he wants to do this?  Is he trying to break up with you? Maybe he's just not man enough to say it and he's trying to do it symbolically.  And ask him if things have changed between the two of you, but don't come at him in a finger-wagging way because a man will shut right down.  Ask for some time alone with him, so that you guys can sit down w/o mom or the kids.  If a man loves you, he should want to be near you...he shouldn't want to be by himself.  I think you guys should sit down and have a talk and ask why he wants to put you and the kids in one room and he be alone.  Something's not quite right there.

I don't know if you guys go to a church or not, but if you do...get your pastor to be the objective referee between you guys.  Pastors are free and they get right to the point.  If not that, a therapist.  She/He won't side with either one.  Get everything out in the air that you need to get out...questions, concerns, and all.

Answer 3

I think the kid's should have their room and you two should be sleeping in the same room. I mean you do already have kid's together. If his mom feels that it would be disrepectful in her home for you to sleep in the same room then I definently would not move in with her. Sounds like she would be controling and may possibly try to tell you how to raise your own kid's.  From experience it will ruin any relationship you have with her and your fiance. I moved in with my mother-in-law and it wasn't long before we had a blow out. We used to be close but now everything is akward and full of tension. My advice is NO don't do it!

Answer 4

ask him y he make this kind of arrangement. m sure he can explain to u. maybe something is bothering him that lead him to this arrangement. talk to him. hopefully he can give u a satisfy answer