Need help with venue! Parents cannot be anywhere near each other!

Question

My boyfriend and I were more than happy to have a small wedding and just go to the local registry office.

BUT... My parents cannot be anywhere near each other! It would be way too much stress for me.

I know a lot of people will just think that they should be adults and get along with each other just for the day but that is not the case!

Does anyone have any suggestions as to the type of venue (we don't want a church wedding) which isn't too large but would have enough space to keep them apart??

Answer 1

How about a country house, or historic site. Pick somewhere with great scenery, everyone will be amazed and your parents will be busy looking at the greatness of the place.

Answer 2

How about an unused prison

Answer 3

Hi,

How about a nice little country hall that has big gardens outside and you can have a marquee outside.

That way they don't need to be around one another.

BUT do sit them down individually and tell them how special this day means for you and that just for one day you don't want any arguements as the day about YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND TO BE and not them!

Lx  

Answer 4

what about a telephone box? not much room in there is there, so someones gonna have to stand outside arent they? lol weddings are difficult when there is family feuding, im sure they wouldnt upset your special day surely?

Answer 5

I would hope that your parents could get along for just one day - especially your wedding day; but you know them the best so it's good you are taking some steps to avoid a potentially bad situation.

Where do you live? Do you have a budget?

I suggest looking into places like Bed & Breakfasts and Inns. You can also try some of your local golf and country clubs. They often times have rooms for smaller events that don't cost nearly as much as renting the ballroom/main room.

I hope that everything works out. I'm sorry to hear that your parents can't get along...but don't let anyone stand in the way of enjoying your special day.  

Answer 6

Hotel and a closed circuit tv system. Put on lot in one room and the other lot in another room and they can watch on the monitors.

Answer 7

a beach wedding and have them on 1 side of the beach with some umbrella drinks  

Answer 8

1)  Elope.

2)  Have the wedding outside where people can stand where they want to, that way they can avoid one another very successfully.

Answer 9

What i would do, honestly, is get married at Gretna or in Vegas, just go off and elope and do it. Maybe not getting invited to their daughters wedding will finally make your parents grow up.

Answer 10

The people who say they should just suck it up b/c it is your wedding are right, but that doesn't mean they will do it!  They usually won't.  And to expect someone to grow up like that after years of hating each other is just not realistic.  So, you are right to try to find a little bigger location just so they have some breathing room.

There are lots of places you could look into.  Usually bed & breakfasts or historic homes in your area offer wedding day packages; some even include cake!  Check those out first, b/c the price is usually right!  Then I would try area parks if the weather allows; nothing like wide open natural spaces to keep people from being right on top of each other!  Some states allow weddings in the capitol bldg or other bldgs. like that.  Art museums are also an idea.

Once you find a location, I would also offer this advice.  If you can afford a day-of wedding coordinator, hire one!  If not, find a neutral party that is almost unknown to either of the parents and put them in charge of the day.  I have found in my experience that even though they won't bury the hatchet, most people will not behave really badly if a stranger is in charge!   ALSO, let the photographer know well ahead of time what the deal is, so that he/she doesn't try to make them stand together in a picture!