Need him back! advice please!?

Question

Last night my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me.

I have problems handling my emotions and he said that this is the main reason he is breaking up with me. He told me before that I needed to change this problem and get it under control or he would leave me. Well i never really took it seariously and last night he called me (yeah over the phone..blah) and told me its over until i make these changes.

Im just so broken hearted right now. I dont know what to do. He was my boyfriend, best friend, confident, everything for the past 3 years.

I went to the doctor and he upped the dose on my meds and i have an appointment with a counselor on monday. i am trying to get help for this "problem" of mine..and it just breaks my heart that he doesnt want someone with these problems. ((I have depression/anxiety)) I just feel lost and empty and want to be with him. please give me advice. thanks!

Answer 1

any guy that tells you that you need to change for him is a stupid piece of c**p, that you dont desevre...  Srry but that is the truth.  there is someone out there better for you that will love you for who you are...  Just remember that.

Answer 2

First you need to get yourself under control before you try to commit yourself to someone else. Your problems may be putting alot of stress on him and he may feel that his needs are being met. Take a break get yourself together and then make contact with him unless he contacts you first.

Answer 3

If he has put up with for three years, than its safe to say that he really does care about you, BUT, you DO need to change. If you are clinically depressed, that's really not YOUR fault. But here's a small tip that can help wonders w/ your depression.

If you really love him and he takes you back, then every single time you feel down, remind yourself: "I have an amazing boyfriend who loves me and wants to be with me."

I'm not clinically depressed, but I do get down on myself a lot, and I realized that this helped me a lot. My bf had made the same threat, but I did take it seriously. Now that you know he IS serious fix it. If you have to, write it down somewhere where you will ALWAYS see it. This way, it will become easier to remember it when you are in a place where it's not written directly in front of you.