Need male or female advice on this

Question

I was wondering if someone can give me advice? i have recently lost a baby well 2mnth ago i gave birth stillborn at 6mnth. Im desperate for another baby but my husband says hes not read y but i dont understand coz he was ready for the first one all he says is soon. please help someone

Answer 1

I'm sorry for your loss, I know it's a hard thing to handle ( we lost a baby too ) you need to understand that your husband will need time to get to terms with your loss. Very often it's harder for us men because we are suposed to be hard with things like this but we have feelings too. So just give him time.

Answer 2

All he wants is time to heal from the loss of his child, he was probably really happy about having a baby with you.  If that happened to me I wouldn't want to have another baby right away, just give him time to heal...

Answer 3

He's a guy, he's probably still in mourning over the last child and is afraid to lose another. He's trying to come to terms with his emotions over it and generally guys don't like to be up front or talk about it too much, they just take their time quietly. When he's ready, he'll let you know. Just be as patient as possible with him. I know it's hard because you're ready now, but you're both going to be the parents of any future baby and you both need to be on the same page. Good luck!

Answer 4

My wife had a miscarriage the first time she was pregnant and it kind of hurt us both because you have already gotten attached to the baby at this point.  I wouldn't try to pressure him because he is probably still upset about your loss and he isn't sure if he can put himself through it a second time.

Answer 5

hes probally scared and still isnt over the other one. give it time for him to come round and make sure hes ok. its hard for men to come over thier emotions so let im get over it in time. he needs to be reassured that it is not something that happens all the time so he will be ok, let him gain some strentgh back as it was probally a hard stage to get through, just give it time.

Answer 6

Maybe he got excited about the first baby and when it went his heart must of been broken. Give him time

Answer 7

babies are things people invest a lot of emotions in.  Even the unborn ones.  It sounds like your husband doesnt want to get hurt again, or see you hurt in case the same happens again.  2 months is farily fast to get over these things and maybe you need to talk to your hubby and see what his true feelings are on this.

Answer 8

hey im so sorry for ur loss i havnt given birth coz im only 16 but last july my mum had a baby boy and he passed away when he was just 2 days old nd it has to be one of the most painful things ever.....she is now 6months pregnent agen but she seems more ready than me....i was rely up for the baby last time nd now i dont want to be involved at all coz i dnt want to get attached nd then for it to hppen agen.....maybe ur husband is scared it might happen agen nd cnt handle the thought of it......it will take time nd i think that with u buy his side he will cme  to terms with it....im guessin people jus take different amounts of time to get over difficult things......maybe leve it a while nd then jus slowly introduce the idea agen.....hope i hav helped good luck with everthing x x

Answer 9

He may be grieving.

Sorry for your loss, you both need time to come to terms with whats happened.

Answer 10

do you have any other children - we men are fickle things and often change our minds - and/or lie through our back teeth

I'm sorry to hear about your sad loss and thoroughly understand the need to have another baby.

Medically, its best to wait at least 6 months after a stillborn child so its possible he's just being sensible.  

Answer 11

i lost my baby at 24 weeks, she lived for only two days, it was heart breaking as well you know, she was born in the january and i concieved my then 4 th child in the october, for me it was a case of the longer i left it to fall pregnant the harder it would be, my husband on the other hand took much longer to grieve, i explained i felt a failure and that i really needed to give my body one more chance to proove i could carry full term again and that it would help me with the grieving and something positive to look towards, the sad thing is once i fell pregnant my husband became very detatched to my bump, he did come to the scans, but didnt stroke the bump as fear of becoming attatched to something he couldnt face loosing, men tend to grieve and keep things to themselves and find it very hard to talk about it, happily my baby boy arrieved safe and well in the july, i hope this helps, please feel free to email if you want someone to talk to, best of luck x