Need serious help with a friend.?

Question

I've known this girl for about 7 years, when i met her in gradeschool she was suicidal, as a matter a fact she almost Od'ed 3 times and i was an a*****e back then so i didnt really do anything about it. I started talking to her again and now shes balemic,anorexic, and still pretty suicidal.

She's had therapist's and they just make it worse for her, im the only person she tells this stuff to and honestly shes dragging me down with her now and i don't want to back out but i may have to. She's also promiscuous which makes it even more difficult because as much as i hate her, i like her and im not sure why.

I keep talking to her but she changes what she wants all the time, she asks for help but then says she likes being the way she is and nothing is wrong. Any advice at all would be appreciated.

Answer 1

Keep supporting her. Always be there when she needs someone to talk to, and give her advice, but only when she needs it. If she starts dragging you down too far, though, you should back off- if you both kill yourselves, that won't help anyone. But please try your hardest to resist being dragged down- if you leave her, she might get worse. Life sucks when you don't have anyone to talk to.

Answer 2

just tell her its better for me if i get out of this and that your sorry but i gotta do it for myself

Answer 3

You know you have been a great friend to have stuck by her and I do believe there is nothing more you can do for her.

Even though you care, she is not your responsibility as such and if she has had professional care then that's as far as anyone can go with her.  They are the only people who can really help her in the long run.

You need a life too and you can still be there to support her to a point but you've done what you could.

Maybe you could tell her that the way she is, is affecting you deeply, that you can no longer watch her destroy herself and you need to back off somewhat.  There's only so much one human can do until the other one is prepared to help themselves as well.

All the best:)

Answer 4

call 911 and report her for being a harm to herself and possibly others. its a tough decision but good luck!

Answer 5

first of all...you have got some serious patience with her. i think she just wants the attention of knowing you are there to help her through whatever problems she has. I used to have a friend who had a few problems of her own..not this extreme tho...but I'd sit down and talk to her. If you've known her for 7 years you should know how to word it. like..."i care alot about you and i don't want you to get hurt, will you let me help you?" try and make a plan w/her like maybe help her find a therapist she likes (if she finds a good one, they can do wonders for her life.) if she's really bad off tho. i'd probably consider a mental institution where she can be evaluated.    

Answer 6

Seriousely, she sounds bipolar. You might want to read up on that.

She has the signs.  If she is, she will need medication to control her mood swings then maybe you two can have a better relationship.

its ok to be her friend but if she is not a positive influence in your life then dont feel bad about giving her the space you need.

Good luck