Need some Perspective - PLEASE HELP - Was I wrong?

Question

Long story short... I caught him lying and talking to another girl after telling me he was doing something else entirely. I called him on it and was pissed (this is like the billionth time I've caught him in a lie after talking to girl after girl). He also knew my situation that he was one of the few people that I had to turn to in my life and that if I ended things with him I would have no one to help with being a reference to a job. I didn't know what to do... because if I ended things with him I would be stuck between a rock and a hard place... but if I stayed in the situation I would be abusing myself with his f'd up behavior. So, aside from my better judgement, I asked him to be civil and to not hold a grudge if I needed to get in contact with him to help with a reference. I felt bad about selling my soul to this guy and I immediately took back the need to be helped by him so I said forget it. I didn't want him having anything to do with my future.

He was pissed because 1) I had called him on his b.s. and 2) because I had asked him for a favor while telling him it was over.... He told me he would never recommend me for any job and made insulting comments about Burger King (which I don't know if he was trying to say that all I could ever get was that)...

I told him to save it because all he ever did was lie after every time I caught him with another girl yet magically a new girl would appear out of the wood works. And even though he was wrong it would be me who he would attack in anger.

So I need to know if what I did was wrong... I know that asking someone who you're breaking things off with to still be there for you is wrong. But I had no one else to turn to (staying with him felt like blackmail - which is why I took it back).

So I just need to know... is this bad karma for me... did I ruin the chances I have of a future because I was totally selfish in regards to the matter by asking him to be civil and be a reference?

All I keep thinking is how much he told me he would never recommend me for a job and his CLASSIST Burger King comments.

Answer 1

I don't think you were wrong. There is no reason why a relationship should not end on amicable terms and people still remain friends. This is called maturity. Since he doesn't appear to have any you are better off moving on with your life I think. Best wishes. UK

Answer 2

Yes, you were wrong but the good thing is you left that loser!

Answer 3

Can I ask one thing?  Is there anyone that you know to give a reference that is a old teacher, or friend of the family?  

By the way you did right in getting rid of him.

Answer 4

well if hes gonna lie to you you dont need that kind of drama so id say theres someone out there that will treat you like you need to be treated and give you respect