Need some advice, any good responses appreciated!

Question

What would you do?? Please HELP!

My husband and i were separated for two in a half years due to him cheating on me, and recently back in April of 08 decided to try again...I had been dating someone at the time who was a wonderful person who I really liked a lot and I let go of the relationship to try to make it work with my husband again..Problem my marriage is on the ROCKS again not because of the other man but because I don't feel i can trust my husband we have two kids together also...and the other man wants us to try again...

Would you stay with a man who hurt you very badly or do you go for the man who treated you with dignity and respect?

Answer 1

Wow! I imagine your feeling teribble, I have had a similar situation and til this day i am scared because my Husband messed around on me. All I can say is if your gonna leave ur man make sure its completely over. Theres no need to play back and forth games. If your not gonna leave him, I reccommend counseling. Its so hard to leave someone with so much history between you both. I feel you and i wish u the best of luck.

Answer 2

You answered your own question.  You know what you want to do.   You can't love a guy you can't trust.  Go back to the other guy.  You deserve trust and respect.

Answer 3

Your going to have to follow your heart on this one.  My husband cheated on me, and we decided to give it another try.  It took years (7) before I got to the point where I could say I really trusted him again.  If I had someone else who was treating me right and I was unhappy I'd go for it.  I think your going to have to take a really good look at yourself and what you want.  Don't worry about the kids, once your happy they will be to anger doesn't last forever when divorce happens.  Sounds to me though like this is something you want to persue and if so, I say go for it girl!

Answer 4

I was married for 15 years with two kids when my  husband cheated on me and I found out, for me I couldnt ever trust him again that is me some people can forgive and forget not me, I look at as once a cheater always a cheater and we got divorced. I since then meet a great man who dose all the things my husband never did and who loves me the way a man should love a woman we have since been married for now 6 years have had a little girl who is 4 years old and although it was awful to go thew the divorce in the end it was the best thing for me and for my kids they now have a step dad who is a father to them which there real father never really was, my kids are now 19 and 21 and are more attached to there step dad then there own dad. And at the time I did think to stick it out for the kids but then I thought better and did what would be best for me and not just stay for my kids and for me it was the best choice ever.

As for you follow your heart if you do love your husband and can forgive him then you should try, but if you dont think you could ever forgive him and have feelings for the other man then you owe it to your self to find happiness and do what feels right for you, not always are we meant to be with the people we first marry some times we have to go threw these things to find our real soule mate good luck and hope you find the right path to go down.

Answer 5

Depends on the degree of cheating, did he do it ritually? many times? Then I'd say start dating another person. Chances are, they're not good enough for you. Men shouldn't cheat no matter what. It's almost to the point were it's unforgivable