Need some advice about my 14 month old daughter

Question

She has begun hitting, punching, slapping, hair pulling, scratching and pinching when ever she doesn't get what she wants. That could be she doesn't want to share a toy with her cousin to not wanting her nappy changed. It feels like she really really wants to cause pain when she does that.

I dont know how to tell her off coz shes still only a baby really and i dont think she understands the concept of saying sorry.

Answer 1

My chidren have been the same. i find saying no then outting her in her cot for 2 minutes normally works. she soon learnt that when  she hurts others she is taking away from things that she enjoys. when out in public i take her away from the situation, sit her on the floor and make her stay their for two minutes. when a few months older i then made them say sorry by giving a kiss or cuddle to the person theyve hurt. good luck.

Answer 2

Try talking to your daughter.  I have a son the same age, and he went through a biting stage.  I picked him up and spoke to him nice and softy, and told him that biting is wrong and he shouldn't do it, also telling him that its not nice and how he would like it if he got bitten, while reminding that mummy and daddy loves him, and that mummy and daddy doesn't bite, and does the things hes doing.  Keep doing this and hopefully your daughter will soon learn that its wrong to do what she is doing.

Another reason for this is that shes trying to get your attention, try spending some time with her its my belief that it doesn't matter how busy you are, you should ALWAYS have time to spend with your children, even if this means that the washing doesn't get washed or what, spend time with your kids, trust me its worth it :d

Answer 3

Don't give her attention ie shout,scream when she is bad just say firmly 'thats naughty' and why it is naughty. Give her praise and encouragement when she is being good. Because she is getting attention when she is good and not bad, she will behave better.

Answer 4

I do not think she wants to cause you pain but this it what it feels like to you at the moment.

Each time she tries to pull hair, pinch etc... a firm NO, maybe in a different tone of voice should do the trick.  Keep up with it though and you should notice a change.

She is still only a baby but teaching early is the key.

Good luck hun and keep your chin up it will all come together x

Answer 5

you mustnt pay attention to her.  

Answer 6

your daughter is a baby and probably can not fully talk yet. therefore babies get frustrated easily because they want to communicate but can not. they dont understand and will do anything possible to get your attention. and of course she doesnt understand the concept of saying sorry. but thats what YOU as her MOTHER must teach her. anytime she hits or pinches or whatever, YOU have to tell her NO and teach her to apologize to those she hurts. theres no other way to fix this problem then to just be her parent and teach her right from wrong! best of luck to you!

Answer 7

I think it is normal  for children to go through this at some point.

However I also think it's important to teach them the difference between right and wrong from an early age. My daughter is only six months old and I often very firmly say no, or stop.

I appreciate that many people think that they don't understand what being told off is, however I think that it is better to start at a very early age, so they don't get a massive shock later on.

I do think my daughter understands, she gives me this wide eyed look and then a smile, I then give her an even sterner look (trying not to laugh lol) and she stops.

Answer 8

I have a boy the same age I use firm voice when hes doing something he shouldnt be, but I have just started him in a creche for two mornings a week and it seems to be helping him, he could be bored and need some company from other children.

Answer 9

its normal or children do it

Answer 10

Our daughter went through this phase from about 12 months, she stopped being aggresive once she started talking more from about 17 months.

One thing I will say is make sure each time she does it you let her know its wrong, even if she doesn't pay attention. We would put her by the front door & not let her move, then explain that you don't hurt people. Obviously she'd go bonkers but it didn't take long for the message to get through.

she's 21 months now and rarely naughty but if she is she'll go straight to the front door & say sorry & have lots of cuddles whilst I explain what she did wrong and why she shouldn't do it.

It is a phase but not one that should be left as she then might continue to think its ok to bully others as she gets older.

But honestly our girl would bite me, headbutt, kick and dig her nails into me-it was awful but now she's a gentle,caring little girl who happily shares. So just be persistent & you'll notice it'll start to have an effect.