Need some advice on dating a single mom?

Question

Okay here it goes. I have been dating this beautiful and intelligent woman for the past nine months. We get along, best friends, honest with other, and the kids are great. The problem is that her ex husband is a loser and makes every attempt to disrupt her life by not paying child support on time, returning the kids late from visits, or tries to manipulate her with guilt and c**p. I get that dating a single mom takes patience given the dynamics, but thier are days where it wears me out. I told her recently that I needed space to breath a little because of being exhausted, which greatly hurt her. I don't blame her for the way he acts but it still wears on the relationship. I have this fantasy in my head that she drop kicks the loser and move on with her life. Reality check?

Answer 1

Just think a moment... do what your heart says...

Answer 2

You a great man for doing what you have done...  She needs to figure out what makes her happy and fight for that happiness..  Time will tell what she will do and as for you, you have to do what makes you happy...  If your not happy how can you make someone else happy?

Answer 3

my friend, u c dating sum1 in/out of relationship not when kids are involve, personally i think the best thing to do is for you to opt out of d relationship...I'm sorry but life goes on

Answer 4

This is the sole reason NOT to date someone with kids.  Sorry, but you've already figured out the drama.  And it won't go away no matter what the women says.  That's why the only kids in my life will have my DNA.

Answer 5

I'm sorry, I don't understand, WHAT wears YOU out?  If it's that she gets stressed and takes it out on you, then you need to talk to her about that, b/c that's her problem.  If she's so dependant on his child support that it disrupts her life, she needs to go out and get a better job.

I just don't understand how the way her ex-husband acts affects you, I think what the real problem is, is the way she acts or responds to the ex.  That is on her, and something she needs to work on.  She can't change her ex, all she can do is learn how to handle it better so it doesn't affect her life (and relationship with you.).  

Answer 6

I hate to tell you, friend, but because there are kids involved her ex will always be there. It is his right. And if he really treats her like c**p, the only thing that can change that is her making it change. If you really care about her, wait it out, but don't hold your breath, as this problem might never go away.