Need some advice on how to deal with an ex's crazy girlfreind...?

Question

The father of my children and I separated about a year ago and things were all right between us to start with but his current girlfriend is a real *****. She doesn't let him talk to me unless she's there, she tries to stop him from even seeing me when we drop pick kids off from each other. I've tried my hardest to just ignore her but its at a point now where i wanna smack her one!

She is not only horrible to me but to family as well. I am still really good Friends with his sisters and we hang out all the time but she goes off her nut at them whenever she hears that we have hung out. She's trying to tel them who to be Friends with and if she sees us all together out shopping or something she completely ignores them but tries to be there best Friend when she sees them without me.

I am still close to all his family and always will be. Anyone got any ideas on how to deal with this situation? It's making me crazy!

Answer 1

Let it go - it's not your problem.

Maintain your friendships with his family, that is your and their business alone.

And if she wants to be a nut job and drive your ex and his family crazy - let her.  

The only place I'd put my foot down is any situation that would comprimise the well-being of your children.    As long as she isn't harmful to them in any emotional or physical way - get a good chuckle out of it.  It's his problem, not yours.

Answer 2

Mybe yall should fight it out when the kids are sleeping so u can kick her *** and she wil never mess with u again

Answer 3

I think she is taking things to far in trying to have control. It seems she sees you as a threat or she thinks your intentions is you wanting your ex back.

I think the best thing when you get time is to tell your ex to tell his girlfriend to ease up and she has to respect that you two will have to interact due to the fact you have children together. The children is what will tie you together for this present moment.

Also sounds like your ex needs to be strong because it sounds like he is being a follower rather than a leader in trying to make things as smooth as possible in regards to you and his girlfriend. Hmmmmm either way you all are going to have to have a wise talk and question what issues does she have causing her to feel so much threatened by your presences like that.

Answer 4

when it comes to being friends with his family, just continue to go about it as you already do.  she looks like a giant ***, not you.  and obviously his fmaily doesnt care becuase they still continue to see you so let it go.  As to her not letting you talk to your ex and stuff like that, you 2 share children together and need to be discusing whats going on in these childrens lives and parenting and such so I would make it known to him that if she continues to interfere you will need to be speaking to a lawyer about changing the custody and visitation agreements because what she is doing is not healthy for your children and is interfering in them having as normal of a life as possible.