Need some advice or knowledge.PLEASE!!!?

Question

My husband has a "maybe" son out there and he is goin to be 7 in a few days in the beginning it was his then not and now its just a mess. The mom refuses for him to have any contact w/ the child and his child support is in arrears ALOT. The problem is he signed the paternity papers and seems as if he has no rights cause he is a guy.What can we do to get a test done or at least make this situation more reasonable. Needless to say she has five kids to five guys so that goes to show the "TYPE" of female we are tryin to reason with. I just think $441.00 a month is alittle steep for just one child. Please help or give some advice on lawyers,tests or just plain experience. TY

Answer 1

the money is based on her income level....it costs a lot to care for a child. daycare alone is 125 per week.....much less food, clothing, school fees, savings, etc.

Your husband should have had a paternity test done long before now. If she is not allowing visitation, he needs to contact a lawyer and submit himself to a paternity test. Once he is proven to be the father, he has every right to see his child as long as he is paying child support. He does have rights....for some reason, someone is dropping the ball on his rights....but they are there....he just needs to get legal advice and start the process of determining paternity and a visitation schedule.

Answer 2

Firstly, get a lawyer and go to court to demand a paternity test. It might cost you $1000. but if you think the child might not be his, it will save you thousands in the future.

Secondly, $441. should have been determined by the court. They must have concluded he should be able to reasonably afford that, or he is backed up on back pay. If the child IS his- he will just have to buck up and pay.

Answer 3

The good news is that he can take her to court and demand that a test be taken before he hands over any more money.  The bad news is that some people may not have to pay that much for one child, some people may have to pay more because it is all based on income.

Answer 4

I think you need to get a lawyer. He would go to court and ask the judge for a dna Testing done. If he is the father. The ask the jude to reamount the child support because she has other kids and also they should go by his hours and income. And also he can ask for visitation. The judge would do that. If the mother still won't let him see his son and he can take her back to court again and they mother can get into trouble since she didn't follow court orders.

Answer 5

That sounds like a normal amount to me.  My husband agreed to $1250 per child in our prenump so it could be worse :)

Anyways get a lawyer.  You can force her to prove paternity and if the son is not his than he'll be free and clear.  If he is the father he can sue for visitation rights.  It's not impossible.

Answer 6

The state in which I reside, Texas, allows for non-custodial parents to ask for a revisit of the child support order, to determine if the support should be increased or decreased. Therefore, contact your Attorney Generals office.

As for your husband child supports payments being in arrears, he should take care of this matter, ASAP. It is unfair to the custodial parent not receive the funds for the child in a timely manner.

Regarding the 441.00 per month, this is not a lot of money for one child, if you have children of your own, think about how much it cost you to take care of your child. Every time you pay any bill at your home it is taking care of your child. The custodial parent gets a raw deal financially.

"MAYBE" your husband should request a paternity test, if he excepted that the child was his without a test, then you must except that and encourage your husband to handle his business, this is only fair, Ty put yourself in the mothers place regardless of how many children she has by various men. Your husband did not seem to mind the type of woman she was prior to having unprotected s*x.(not being mean just stating fact)

Answer 7

get a lawer and stop paying until the case is over... in fact you maybe able to just stop paying if his rights are infringed but check that out i dont want you guys in trouble

Answer 8

You need to find a custody attorney and file for a paternity test.  Look up one in the phone book.  A father has rights to there children and again you need to contact an attorney for visitation rights.  Child support depends on the amount the father makes.  It doesn't seem fair, but I know a couple of fathers that pay around this amount in child support.  One man pays enough to where his ex would never have to work again.