Need some friendly advice please?

Question

I have this friend who i used to play with from 1st to 5th grade. You see he's a boy. Just a regular friend. But what happened is that after that I've gone to another school for middle school. I am currently not going to high school but I'm almost there. (8th grade) And you see this guy who I'm friends with was like the only friend I had. Not really but what I mean is that you see I'm a tomboy. And I've played out with his gang of people -- him and his friends. Other than them there have barely been any girls I've connected with other than my best friend who may move for high school.

People are telling me that in high school he may not accept having me as a friend because of our genders. At first I thought that was ridiculous but I'm curious. We havent met for 2 years and in high school it'll be 3. He lives near my house but when I try to call him at his backyard he's never outside.

I really do not know if it's a weird question to ask -- if he'll accept me in high school that is. And I don't want to act like an idiot even if he answers.

So i was hoping if you could answer this -- do friends actually start to change whether they accept you as a friend or not because of genders?

>>Dont get me wrong I can live if he's not my friend. It's my opinion. I barely get why I care so much. I guess I just cant accept losing a friend in THIS way. I know I'll face much more but I'd like to start high school with some friends from public school.

Answer 1

Well it doesn't matter what gender you are but I think if he doesn't want to be with you just because he cares what people really thinks that means he's really not your friend after all but I think he won't be changing

Answer 2

It absolutely makes sense that you'd like to start your HS career off with some friends.

I guess the only advice I have to give is that friendships change and morph a lot during Middle and High School.

I am friends, now, with people that I was friends with in 9th grade and then didn't really even speak to the rest of highschool.  I am still in contact with a few people from Middle School, but that's only been recently (I'm 25).

I think that everyone is growing and changing so much during those years that no one really knows who they are or who they want to be friends with.  They sort of "test out" friendships.  Does this make sense?

So, maybe for now you guys won't be friends, but things can always change.  

I know that as I've matured and grown, so have my friends.  If you are truly meant to be friends, you'll always be able to reconnect in the future when you're out of your hormonal/trying-to-figure-out-who-you-ar... phase of life.  Most of my friends currently are ones that I knew in Middle and High School and we've reconnected and realized that, despite the ridiculous school c**p, we really do have a lot in common!

Good luck!

Answer 3

That would be a first.

I've never heard of close friends not accepting eachother because of gender.

If he really is your friend, he'll accept you no matter what.

Don't listen to what people say all time.

Just be you and try to have fun.

Good luck!

Answer 4

i hav a cousin(guy) who i used 2 play wid since i was a lil girl (7 yrs old) ..and ever since v went 2 different high skools...nothing has changed...vr still good friends...its really not up 2 u..its up 2 ur bff...if hes wiling 2 hav a bff dats a girl. or he cares so much about wat other ppl think...besides i c a lot guys who hav girls that r their best friends..so again its really up 2 ur best friend

Answer 5

Here is my advice well when you see your friend again you should take it slowly by maybe walking up to him and ask "Hi! Remember me from 5th grade we played together since 1st-5th grade." and if he remembers you should be ok.