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Question

I feel like I must have something wrong with me. It seems like men lose interest in me so quickly, within a few weeks (or less) usually. Do they just get bored of me?

Has anyone here been in this situation? Or does anyone have any insight?

(And no I am not clingy, I am very far from that)

Answer 1

I am a guy and actually have similar experiences with girls. I'll meet someone, we'll really like each other, "mess around"  for like two or three weeks then that's it. I don't mind this too much actually though. The reason? Maybe it's the people we are attracted to. Looking back at some of the girls I was with, they all  we're kinda S****y or ( I think) had like depression or something,or just really dumb. .

Answer 2

sorry can't help you. i like women who ARE clingy. i love holding hands and hugging and cuddling and can't get enough of it.

everyones is different and is looking for different things. you can't expect to find someone you are 100% compatible with  after just meeting 4 or  people.

Answer 3

Simple, find a guy who is willing to wait a little while for s*x. That's what my girl did to me and we are very happy together, and no longer sexless.

Answer 4

Hi,

Well I'm not sure how old you are..(not that *that* really matters.) but I don't know how often you date or your circumstance.('s) I don't want to sound "offensive to men in any way but somehow I'm not thinking it's you.  Unless you have this majorly repulsive, boring, annoying funky quality about you that you are not saying here...but I seriously doubt that you do.  I can't imagine being in the dating world at this day and age, it must be so difficult.  I mean it was always not easy I mean for an example if you like someone..they either have no idea or arent available..or after you do get them or they ask you out..you usually find out..Whoa!  'I don't want him...or that kind of person.)  It's also hard to find people who it seem like they want to commit or get the time to get to know you the good bad and the ugly.  However that stuff is usually the normal things that people have experienced and are wanting to tell someone or trust someone to be able to give them the low down on ya.  What's wrong with that? Not that anyone should be doing that right off the bat. I mean after you've gotten to know someone ofcourse :)  ON the defense to men these days...I think sometimes they get mixed signals or think a girl is wanting a commitment right off the bat.  Most of us arent like that unless your a stalker chick, or desperate.! God forbid! LOL I also think there are so many "loose" chicks today...(not every girl so I don't wanna' hear c**p from girls thinking I'm bashing women. I'm  not.) Just watch TV VH1- the reality shows and how these women just throw themselves at say..flavor flav, Bret Michaels for example..or the bachlor.....I'm not a tv junkie but how can any of these men have any respect for most of these women.  Within a week..or a couple of days they are ALL in love with these men and throwing themselves whorishly in my opinion to them. Not what the majorety men want nor desire. I think men want a *real* woman. I'm sorry...back to the subject..listen sweetie, just try to be yourself...try to find or date men that YOU want to date...that you feel you reeeeally

have qualities that you look for in a man.  If it doesn't work out, be confident, believe it just wasn't the person you were supposed to be with. Kay? Keep your chin up...I know it's hard. I know your feelings are hurt...heal your heart and yourself and focus on you....next thing you know..some guy unexpecedly will probably ask you out when you least expect it! I'm divorced with 2 children 14 and 11...I went on a couple of dates a long time back...and I stopped "looking."  I'm pretty,(I'm not conceided, just saying) Great Mom, good figure...have alot to offer...good figure..good personality, I love to cook..I'm passionate about alot of subjects from politics to children to trying to give back in this world.

I do get lonely sometimes but...hey, I'm not wanting just any man...I want a real man...who respects women, loves women, wants to treat us like the gift we are and always will be.  It's just the matter of finding someone who is willing to take the time to get to know one another inside and out...and to do that it requires that you have an extreme chemestry as a man and woman.  They should be gentlemen...such as..open the car doors for us, buy us flowers, send a romantic note, surprize you with their own unique and great ways they hold, I want someone funny who makes me laugh, can have a serious conversation, makes me feel safe,  

Men are awesome...I hope I will find another love, I really do...but if I don't... I have great kids and they have always been my focus.  However I do feel the desire to be loved and cared for by a great confident man.  One who has a great job even retired, pride...is a republican (LOL!) Handsome bigtime, strong, confident, cares about people in general and our world, animals, hobbies, dresses sharp, (or looks reeeeally good in a pair of jeans and a nice T-shirt, nice body, and wants to rock my world....because believe me..I can rock theirs...but only the right man. :) I'm not a clingy woman either I know what you're saying there.  I just think you haven't found the right man.  Good luck sweetie and all the best to you.  Hang in there! :) Smile!

Love,

Eileen

Sorry for the spelling errors and I hope it makes sense...I was rushing...