Need some serious advice???

Question

I'm pregnant with twins that are due any day now..The father caused me so much emotional stress starting from day one of my pregnancy but now he is insisting that i give one of the boys his first and last name.He did nothing for me throughout my pregnancy buying a couple of meals just doesn't cut it...By the way he's been locked up since my 5th month of pregnancy and wanna act so concerned now calling me all the time as if he's excited.He cheated with several women and i was always there for him (never no more) Should i name one of them after him he doesn't have any children these are his first.I know we're young and most guys cheat i don't know what the future holds and don't want to regret naming one of my sons after him if the relationship manages to work but i doubt that it does.So basically i know he doesn't doesn't deserve it because he wasn't here for me but what should I do ?

Answer 1

This sounds awful, I really feel for you. I am sorry but the fact he has cheated on you, treated you badly since pregnancy (and before) and is now locked up and calling you (because you are probably the only one who listens). I do not think he should have a choice in the naming of your babies. To be honest think of your two babies when they grow up and reach the age of 20 - they will look back and think of how bad he treated you and the bad things he done and if one of them is named after him they will probably feel ashamed to be named after him - they may even be angry at you. Unless this guy does a complete 360 turn on his behaviour, gets out of jail and starts acting like a real man and being there for you and your unborn kids then I do not think he has a choice in the matter. Good luck and I hope I wasn't too harsh in my opinion.

Answer 2

It sounds like you're going to be the primary care provider for those children, so you have the right to name them whatever you want.  You don't need to feel pressured to name one of the kids after him.

Answer 3

i think that this is up to you basically if youre going to be the only working parent who is going to take care of your beautiful twins then its for you to name but on the other hand it did take the both of you to have these beautiful twins so how about a compromise why dont you both agree on a good name or one of the boys could have the fathers first name only its up to you and i hope that this helps

Answer 4

The last thing you should do is name the baby after him. Just by his actions it shows that you will be taken care of these babies without him. He has not brought anything for the babies and he's been lock up since you was 5 months pregnant, come on now that spells dead beat daddy. He may not leave or stop doing for the babies right after they are born but he will not been there forever. Men are always excited when the baby is coming but things change when the baby's born. It's already hard to get a "baby daddy" to help out changing pampers,getting the bottle, feeding the baby, watching the baby but your having twins so its going to be extra hard. I know too many girls who have sons name after the father and the father is either not there anymore or he's not giving them any money. They wish that they would have never named their child after the father. You don't want to make the same mistake. Maybe the name could be similar to the father or the name could have the first 3 letters of the father name.