Need to find my birth mother...I was only 3days old?

Question

I was adopted at 3days old, and I am now 22yr old. I really need to find my birth mother...can you plz help me..I am in real trouble....I need serious help..

Answer 1

You do not give much info for anyone to give you any specific help. Search methods differ depending upon where and when you were adopted. It also makes a difference how much information you have to start with.

There are a lot of online groups that may be able to help you with your search. There are also groups like ALMA that can help you both online and in real time. Do a search online for adoptee or adoption or adoptee search groups. I will put a few URLs to a couple of online groups or info sources below.

BTW... I am a reunited late discovery adopee.

Answer 2

don't! I know it sounds silly but I am actually only 12, but i was adopted too! i tried! to find my mom but it didn't really work out! my mom alos did to so she decided that it was better of and easier with just one life. not two! but go ahead if you really want too but if you are smart, you will make the right choice! hope this helps!- Jessica

Answer 3

I would be concerned about why you say you are in "real trouble" and need "serious help" and why it is that you think finding your birth mother will help.  I can imagine circumstances where maybe it would...but without knowing more I doubt anyone can be of a lot of help.  

Also, without knowing the circumstances of the adoption, please try and remember that giving you up could have been a very troubling, emotionally difficult or even secretive thing that your birth mother did.  Depending what your "trouble" is that you have, she may not be able to help or in a position with her family that she would be willing to help.  

I was also adopted at a very young age, and do have friends who have found their birth parents sucessfully and things worked out wonderfully.  Is there something about this problem that a personal friend or family member or other person could help you with?

Answer 4

Im in no way trying to be funny,stupid or making a joke out of this but honestly...Maury,Dr.Phil and Montell can help u out. I know they are talk shows and u will have to share your life with the viewers,but these talk shows have very good results at locating someones loved ones. Just give them a call and they will pay your expenses,fly u in and locate your mom. Good luck!!!

Answer 5

It might help to start with the agency that you were adopted with. Also, talk to you adopted parents and ask how much they know about your birth mother.

Answer 6

try to ask your parents if they know if your birth mother leaves in your hometown

Answer 7

what state? was it through the state or an agency? do you have your non id? contact me i'll see what I can do.

Answer 8

I would ask your adoptive parents for your birth mothers name and if not available go to the agency who handled your adoption.  You are of legal age that this information is by law given to you(here is Canada anyway) Or go to the hospital where you were born and ask for a copy of your live birth certificate.  This certificate will have your birth mothers name and birth fathers name.   If this is health related then they have to disclose to you all information.  From there then you will have to do research yourself, such as finding here or her relatives.  I hope this will help.  Here in Canada the adoptee and the birth mother have access to this information as long as the adoptee is 19 and both have given permission to be contacted.  I wish you all the best.....kat

Answer 9

first off calim down i was adopted to and by the way ur freaking out im guessing no one told u or ur in real danger so ill try to help ok ur adoptive parents mine told me every thing and they kepted a file over it with ALL my family info so start their then find witch agency u came from then ask around if that takes to long then i suggest a background search over the internet but to get one u have to know thing about them and their not free. the best way is through ur adoptive family i hope i helped and if u need any advise u can ask me

Answer 10

I known that it hurt that u known your birth mother gave u up. That is her mistake, and she has to live with it. Also do u really want o find her? Are u prepared to see what she is like and all that come with her? Just take a little more time and see what your heart tell you to do. Now if you do this would this hurt the mother and father who raise you. Those people are your real family. Maybe your birth mother did it for a reason. You have to look in your heart and see what it tell u to do.

Answer 11

If you are in trouble, your birthmother is unlikely to be able to help in any way. Among other things, she is not legally related to you.

I support adoptees finding their birthparents.  If you need quick response, hire an investigator.  Otherwise, your best bet is to sign up with adoption search sites.

Answer 12

Try Paul Brown

http://www.miraclesearch.com/

Answer 13

I will assume that you have some medical crises, such a bone marrow transplant or something. You could find a search angel to help you look. Ask you parents they might have some information that could help you, such as name of your birthmother etc.  If you have the name of your BM you could do a people search she might be listed.