Need your help...I just don't feel like being close to my husband?

Question

I have almost ZERO libido - I was put on pelvic rest but now I am off and I still have zero libido and have for most of my pregnancy (I am 23 weeks). But, the other thing that is distressing me is I just don't want to be touched by my husband. I don't want to cuddle, hug, kiss etc.

I LOVE him to death but I feel like I want to from a distance. He's so understanding but I can tell it hurts him a bit and I try my best. Did anyone just not feel like being physical AT ALL during pregnancy?

Answer 1

Well it's normal to not have a s*x drive while pregnant. It really is different with everyone. Who knows if after you will regain it back. It could be months, even years. I was in your situation with a no s*x drive and it's not pleasant. I tried dieting and exercising but it didn't do anything. Until I tried this natural herbal enhancer which is meant to increase the s*x drive along with other things I've noticed. It's a topical oil called Hersolution Gel which is like an instant libido boost. Along with that my sensations are just blasting and my orgasms are then best. Read up about it at herenhancement.com where I saved on it at the time. It got better with every application. I was skeptical at first but the companies return policy made me commit. From what I remember you have to try out for a couple months but then after that you can return it if it doesn't work. It would work great for your situation considering your pregnant and theres no need to swallow anything. Well good luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 2

Is it possible you could be suffering from Depression?  I would check with my doctor on this because to me it sounds like a form of depression.  

Answer 3

Don't feel bad , at that Time of our life we all get that Way Sometimes.I made my Hubby sleep on the couch,Most o the time. The the last month i cried cuz he would not sleep with  me. My Poor hubby was so confused, Hug me,Don't touch me, Stop chewing like that, Why aren't you eating / stop wearing that Colone,it was horrible.. But in the end i felt so much love for him. trust me it will pass in time..

Answer 4

Its just your hormones.  Try and explain to your husband how you are feeling, and let him know that it is not forever.  Your libido may change in your third trimester, some women get increased libido then.  Good Luck.

Answer 5

I did for the main of my pregnancy and then when I hit about 30 weeks I became a real sook and all I want to do is cuddle now! Just keep trying your best and telling him how you feel as much as you can. It is impossible for a guy to understand they just don't experience these things but it sounds like he's being really good about it. My partner was a real sook about it and that just caused way too many arguments!

Answer 6

Yeah, I have felt like that, I was like a prickly cactus for the first 25 weeks or so of pregnancy, First it was because of morning sickness I was so nauseous, tired and uncomfortable I just wanted to be left alone. Then I dont know what it was, My hormones were racing and I was just PRICKLY, didnt want affection from my partner and didnt want s*x or to even think about s*x! BUT there is hope! It does get better, Im now 40 weeks pregnant and OMG our s*x life has been great for about the past 6 weeks.. It just came out of nowhere!

Answer 7

I totally sympathize with you. It was like a switch flipped as soon as I got pregnant. There was a couple of times during my pregnancy that I was a horn dog. But for 98% of it I have felt no desire. I do love him and he knows it. Just talk about it and let him know. If he loves you he will understand. If not get him a book on pregnancy and tell him to read about all the wonderful things that happen to you and your body. He may than sympathize with you. Good Luck!!

Answer 8

I felt that way for about the first 15 weeks and I know it offended him a little too. Sometimes I still get in those moods where I don't even want to kiss him before he goes to work! He knows you love him, dont worry about that. For me, I am 20 weeks today and am showing big time and just feel so ugly and fat so that could be part of why I dont have to be physical. But now I DO want to be physical and I feel he doesn't so even if you don't want to get physical you can enjoy that he does from a distance!! Good luck

Answer 9

Absolutely! I hate it, but at the moment I just don't want to be touched, kissed or anything. My skin is feeling very sensitive, and my sense of smell is in overdrive, and I just want to wrap myself up in something soft and hide until the pregnancy is done.

I'm sure we'll get over it! But yeah, it hurts my hubby too, to the point where he'll just roll over and go to sleep without our usual sleepy chat.

It's playing merry h**l with changing 18 month old's nappies too.

Answer 10

I feel you!!! When I was pregnant with my son, I could not stand my husband.  For some reason I didn't want to be around him physically in any way, h**l I didn't even want to be in the same room as him. He always says I was so mean to him. I think its just pregnancy hormones I guess. Im pregnant again and this time I can not stand a teacher that I work in which we are great friends. Just try to show him u care in other ways by little notes and nice things like that so he don't get crushed... But hey be glad its not the other way around!

Answer 11

Maybe its all pregnant women, because about half way through the pregnancy thats how i felt too. Every little thing starts to irritate you sometimes and you jsut want to be alone with your baby. It is a very confusing time for both of you. More towards the end I couldnt get enough attention, I just wanted to be hugged and told I looked beautiful with my swollen feet and achey back lol...it gets better just reasure your husband you love him. You will be okay.

Answer 12

YES!!!!!!!!  Its hormones and it will get better after birth and hopefully somewhat before.  Its totally normal to feel this way, but remember that he deserves some attention and affection so try to be nice.  

Answer 13

yes yes yes....it is the hormones raging. things should return to semi normal after your baby arrives. mine never went back to normal but some of it did return....i couldn't even stand to look at him

Answer 14

It's not depression at all. Every pregnant woman is different and usually pregnant women have almost zero libido. There are times I feel bad because I tell my partner to just stay away from me and he gets the impression that I'm mad at him or that he did something wrong, and it hurts me to see him hurt. But I guess it's just like that. I have down days sometimes although most of the time I love being cuddled and touched. There are also times when I just feel reeeeeaaally hot that touching me would just make it worse, so maybe that's also one of the reasons. Things will get better after you give birth though. :)

Answer 15

Yes I feel the same way, but you must explain to him just like I did to my husband that its not him, it's so hard to explain what all is going on in your body right now, and make sure you let him know that you LOVE him and it's not that you don't love him =)

it'll get better...

Answer 16

I'm the same way.

I honestly just don't want it.

Partially because I just feel disgusting.

But I just don't desire it.

And I feel guilty, because clearly, me being pregnant doesn't affect HIS libido.

And I know after the baby comes he's not gonna be getting much at all.

Talk to him and tell him how you feel, and how you WANT to be intimate with him, you just don't physically desire it, and how you want him to know how much you love and care about him.