There are so many questions on here regarding how to punsih children. Don't you think that needing a lot of punishment is a sign that something is wrong in the parenting itself? I mean if someone is doing a good job of teacing right from wrong and why it's important to behave a certain way and they have set limits and consequences then would punishment become less and less necessesary?
Why do people focus so much on punishment when it's a persons parenting style and how they teach lessons that has more to do with how well behaved a child is?
I have 4 boys and they rarely need punishment. they are 13, 13, 11 and 8. I see many questions on here about how to punish kids that are older and it seems to me that by the time a kid is older, they should have learned self discipline. They should be making good choices most of the time based on what you've taught them.
So the way I see it, if you need to constantly punish your child, then something is wrong in the parenting itself, it's not about punishing more or different or often. If my kids were to do something bad, I would feel I didn't do a good job to teach right from wrong and would make a change in my parenting itself (communication, attention,creative techniques, more limits etc...) I wouldn't just be focusing on how to punish the behavior but more on how to change it.
So why do parents focus so much on punishing? I see questions about how to punish a behavior and then there are like 10 answers that say "smack the kid" I mean seriously? People should focus more on how to change the behavior by using actual parenting rather than just focusing on punishing the child over and over. often bad behavior can be changed by simply giving a child more attention, having better communication, setting more specific limits, being creative.
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