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Negative, manipulating grandmother?

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i love my grandmother because she has raised me like her child since my mom left. my dad was too young to take care of me at the time, and by the time he felt ready, i was nine and too attached to my grandmother to leave. at nine years old, i was also too young to realize that she was already manipulating me and everyone around me.

now that i'm older, i can't stand to be around her. like i said, i love her to death, but she is extremely negative. all she does is talk badly about people in our family. she's pugnacious and constantly

"offended" by whatever i say. she starts fights for no reason. she lies about the tiniest (and biggest) things, and when i call her out on it, she screams that i'm accusing her of being a liar and starts to cry. when i try to avoid her because i'm in a bad mood, she does all but follow me around the house, provoking me. she borrows money off of me (her seventeen year old granddaughter) and never pays me back.

i can't stand this any more. we argue every single day because she just won't let me alone. i have no where to go. i'm saving up to move out when i'm eighteen, but until then, what can i do to keep myself from going crazy?

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  1. You scream into pillows, join a kick boxing class, and just go out all the time. You could also buy some ear plugs. I really do hope things work out for you. I know what your going through hun and it sucks. Good luck.

    P.S. Try getting a job that requires overtime a lot, you'll save more money and be out more!  


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  3. Tell your grandma that you love her, but she is pushing you away with the way that she has been treating you.

    Start giving her twenty dollars a week to help out. That way she doesn't have to borrow and you do not have to feel angry when she doesn't pay it back. Just give it to her & walk away every week.

    if she asks for more, tell her that you do not have any extra to give. Do not disclose your savings, etc....

    When she starts fights, tell her that you love her and that you are not going to fight with her, and then walk out. Come back when things have cooled off.

    You do not have much time left with her. Make the best of it without letting her manipulate you.

    Best wishes


  4. She screams and cries because she knows it'll make you back off. Thats a sure sign that she knows what she's doing. Tell her that she's behaving like a toddler and if talking to her doesn't work, move in with a friend.

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