Neighbors being a tad inappropriate?

Question

I live in Long Island, NY near the beach, and anyone who has been there knows it's very country-like. Anyway, I have a two story house and my neighbor's house is about the same size, if not a little taller. I was in my den on my computer on the second story floor, and my neighbor was down by his driveway. I wasn't aware he could see me, and all of a sudden I hear "Hey Lacey! How are you?" while I'm sitting in the privacy of my den. I walked over to the window and said "Hi!" and then closed the shades. I felt it was a little inappropriate and rude for the neighbor to say hi to me while I was sitting in the privacy of my house on the second floor. If I had been looking out the window (which I wasn't) or I was on the first floor (which I wasn't) or I was outside (which I wasn't), it would have been a different story and I might not have minded. Was this inappropriate and rude on my neighbor's part?

Answer 1

No....maybe friendly..? But i guess you dont like being treated friendly so why dont yuu tell everyone 2 treat u like c**p..?

Answer 2

I don't think so. He looked up and you were clearly visible. Sounds like he was just being neighborly. Now if he was standing in one of the upstairs windows of his house looking across at you and just staring, I'd think that's inappropriate. But that's not what happened here. Now that you know that the neighbors can see you, sit away from the window so that you're out of view.

Answer 3

I have to think he was just being friendly.  Would he have said hello to you if you were in the backyard?  If yes, then he's being friendly.  If no, then he was trying to let you know he could see you and you might want to close your shades.  I bet it felt weird closing them, seeing how that was kind of sending a message.

Answer 4

I think you're just being a bit sensitive. He was just trying to be friendly.

Answer 5

Neighbors are just being friendly.  Your windows and/or blinds are open and they see you, it's a friendly thing to wave and say hi if they are outside and notice you.  Nothing at all wrong with that and it's certainly not rude.  If you require more privacy, keep your blinds closed at all times but I see nothing wrong here.

Answer 6

Yes it was (in my opinion) inappropriate and rude on your part.

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Answer 7

I think it was friendly, not inappropriate.  You were on the second story, as you state, and he was in his driveway so it's not as if he was peeking in your window looking for you or being nosey.  He was just able to see you and said hi.

Answer 8

this is probably not the answer you want to hear but i think he was just trying to be friendly maybe it felt a little awkward to you because you thought you were alone and didn't realize he could see you... look at it like this you were so shocked because you didn't know anyone could see you but he did you a favor because now you know =)

Answer 9

That is absolutely completely and utterly inappropriate. If I was him and I saw you, I would NEVER disturb you in the privacy of your own home, whether I wanted to let you know I've seen you or not. If he keeps it up and does it whenever he sees you, say something to him. Tell him he's being rude, which he was in this case.

Answer 10

No? they were just saying hi bcuz they could see you.

if you dont want people to see you... close your blinds? common sense.

Answer 11

Maybe he was letting you know that he can see you and you need to dress appropriately.

Answer 12

He did not flash you for goodness sake.

Answer 13

Doesn't seem that rude. You are in NY after all - isn't everyone there loud and obnoxious? If you close your blinds on him, soon enough he'll get the hint.

Answer 14

As long as your blinds are open, expect to be seen. If you do not want to be seen, close the blinds. He could see you from where he was so I think he was just being friendly and not rude.

Answer 15

i think he was just being friendly, like really friendly (not in a creepy way though).  i can see how you would be annoyed though, i also like to be left alone.

Answer 16

I would not like it i would never do that if we had made eye contact may be but you were in your home i dont know how close you were to window i think it was rude why was he looking up there

Answer 17

Get over it. If you are able to be seen through your window, anyone can look in. Nothing wrong with that. If you want privacy, close your blinds.

Answer 18

It sounds to me that he's just a neighborly and quite nice guy.

I'm sure he meant nothing more than to say good day.

Answer 19

Yes, I suppose this was a little innappropriate. But, he might have just been trying to be friendly!

Answer 20

Dear Lacey, chill.  He wasn't rude.  He saw you and said Hi.  He wasn't  in the bushes trying to sneak a peak at you in the shower.  If you don't want to be seen, stay out of sight.

Answer 21

Yes, absolutely it was rude (if it happens again)  But for now, consider that he did you a favor of letting you know you need to buy better window treatments.  :)