Never felt like this before and im not sure if i like it really! Is it just part of growing up or what?

Question

All my mates have bf's and I have never really been in a hurry to find one for myself as it doesnt bother me until I met this one guy omg

I am totally sad (both kinds) when I look at a problem I try and look at it from a different perspective, this time im on the outside looking in at myself and thinking what a bloody idiot get a life but on the inside I cant help it!

For AAAGES now Ive liked this guy who i work with...he left, we are still in contact and chat occasionaly online over IM nothing serious just a friendly conv, he hasnt a clue that I madly have a crush on him, i have done for months ive met his mum too! (she works with me too) and I dot know what to do, im thinking its been to long let it go and im thinking dont give up?

I dont think he fancies me, im sure he doesnt, so I just think it might be better to give up, what would you do? What would you say if you were to tell him? Would you ask him out for a social event and get to know one another?

Thanks

Answer 1

If your serious he's not interested in you, maybe you shouldn't bother letting him know you have a crush on him. (Sorry to sound so pessimistic!)...but maybe it'd be better to avoid the embarrasment of letting him know since he's not interested..otherwise future conversations might be embarrasing.

Then again...you don't have much to lose. It's obviously eating you up inside that he doesn't know you're crushin on him. So ask him to a social event and drop it that u used to have a crush on him. See his reaction. If its positive..let him know that you still do...Maybe that'll make it easier?

Answer 2

Everyone feels like this at some point in their lives- you are not alone.

Be confident.  If you like him, ask him on a date.  If you know him welll enough, find a new movie he'd like and ask him to go and see it.  If he says yes without hesitation you can maybe ask him on another date after if it goes well.  If he's all, 'Well there's my girlfriend..' just exude confidence and say, 'bring her along!'  A movie is very non-commital!  But don't worry about being turned down, because it really, really doesn't matter!

Answer 3

well u nevr know if he does unless u ask

Answer 4

Hey does he have a girlfriend? try to find out. I think he likes you don't put yourself down. I'm sure he's shy and doesn't know how to make his move. I kinda had to do most of the work with my first love/crush. We were both new at the dating game I was 17 and never had a bf. I'm glad I listened to my heart and followed tru. Been seven years and getting married.

Wishing you the best of luck!!!!