Never had a girlfriend before and sick to death of it! can anyone offer any advice?? :-(?

Question

i'm currently 22 and never had a girlfriend of any sort before and i'm wonde4ring if it will change. :-/

i know i'd be good for a girl and be sweet with her and look after her but i'm not suggesting i'm a pushover! ive just had no luck at all getting anywhere! girls just go for some other guy :-(

ive tried online, work, through friends, speed dating, festivals, clubs outside work, bars and nightclubs but still not found anyone who is right for me!

all ive found are girls who blank me and ignored before ive even talked to them, and then they get off with someone else and i seem to get nothing!

ive had a few dates so far but nothing came of them. having said that, i got dates so i must have done something right then! i'm not a bad looker (ive been told!) and ive got loads of mates but none of them know anyone they can set me up with.

ive really tried to improve my confidence and be happy with myself, and this does show alot more now. i;m usually seen as a figurehead in my friendship group and ve gotten off with a few girls, as well as getting loads of numbers and many of them love my company.

david deangelo and neil strauss and the like don't do anything for me. i tried their tactics and all the girls thought was that i was acting like was a d***head! all the answers on here say they like that, but they don't seem to!

more than anything though, i'm worried my lack or sexual and romantic experience will make me useless to her. i see stuff in the media about things that guys my age should know, and u feel like a kid as i don't know them!

does anyone know how i could help myself? will i ever meet my special someone? all my mates are finding theirs now! :-(

i'm not massively desperate, i just really want to think i'm making changes! :-(

Answer 1

well man i am 21 and in the same posistion as u. Well slightly different. I have not even been on a date. All i can say is that wait and hopefully the right person will come.  

Answer 2

Your meeting the wrong people buddy. If you pull anyone at a bar or nightclub for starters the only thing you can expect to get it a bit of oral s*x or so and then life goes on.

You need to figure out what interests and hobbies you have and then participate in a grouped experience. For example if you enjoy reading for example, then go to the library an make conversation with someone there like "ahh i've read that book, its classic" and have a talk about it (quietly of course) And then you would find a reason to go elsewhere. In a library for example it may be something like "I feel like i can't talk to yo here, because of the silence, can we go and get a coffee?" and before you know it, you've got a premature date.

Theres nothing wrong with you, im sure you a good looker and have a cracking personality, its just the social skills tha you're lacking and you might be bad in communication. Which is understandable in your situation, maybe you have lost a lot of confidence in yourself.

Theres plenty of women in that sea out there, if one doesn't float your boat, move onto another. Just practise talking to them, even if tey say they're not interested then atleast the brief talk has done you some good.

Before you know it you'll find Mrs.Right, and you'll be happy ever after.

Oh and if it makes you feel any better, 22 is an excellent age to start finding the one. Because at this age people are often out of university and such, and won't be so pre-occupied with their studies, that they're not looking for love.

You'll be fine mate, just practise :P

Answer 3

While I've been in relationships, Im currently single now myself, and wonder why that is. From what everyone tells me, if you arent looking for it to happen, you'll stumble across it. I believe there is some truth to it.

Besides, when you find the right girl it wont matter if you are 22 or 92 and have never done anything..she'll take you just as you are. No worries!

Answer 4

just keep trying, maybe they might not be your perfect girl but you can learn to love them for who they are. go into pubs, clubs or even see whether any of your friends know anyone who you could meetup with. Gain more self confidence, you can get a girlfriend, you just haven't met the right girl yet. It may take time but your never too late.  

Answer 5

same here dude, I am feeling that I should just give up

Answer 6

Ahh I wouldnt beat yourself up over it, this is probably more common than you think, sometimes when all's your thinking about is you havent got anyone,well,its bound to make you anxious. Relax be yourself, you sound like a nice man, honestly theres someone round the corner for you, get out wth your mates have a good time,stop stressing about it,your only young. As for worrying about sexual and romantic experience, well youve got a head start actually cos most woman dont like men who are tarts,and romantically when she comes along(and she will)that will all come naturally.Someone always comes along when your least expecting it

Answer 7

I think everyone feels that way at one point or another. Like something must be wrong with you for you not to be accepted. Well if what you say is true about getting numbers and being good looking than I say that your time will come soon. I bet you anything that even if your not meaning to, you may come off as a little desperate. Can't blame you if you are looking for that girl, but maybe you find a medium between a s****. d*ckhead and being overly eager to meet someone. Try looking at your mates who are good with the girls and how they act with them.

Don't worry, you're time will definitely come, I promise. Don't rush it and just let it come to you. I've found that when I am single and really wanting a guy I never find one. It always happens when you least expect it. So just sit back and relax and see what happens.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Stop trying to find a girlfriend.

Then you will find her.

Answer 9

she can be right infront of you. just try going out more and finding one or ask your friends if they know anybody looking for someone. or you can get to know the coffee girl at the coffee shop and ask her out on a date *haha* it could work

and i agree with one of the answers. you dont have to look the girl will find you (: