New Baby on the way! HELP! How do i plan??

Question

Okay, i am not the one having the baby, but my sister is and we are in trouble. She is 21, doesn't have a job, and didn't go to college. Currently she is living with her boyfriend that doesn't have a license because he got it taken away, and is a total loser that smokes and drinks. She doesn't have her own schedule, she goes by her boyfriends.[driving him to work and home to his house] It seems like her boyfriend NEEDS her, and he doesn't, just for a ride.

She is due in December and doesn't have the money nor a plan for keeping it. Its a boy by the way.She had just gone to the doctors for the first time even tho she is 5 months in, and is really exited. I told her about Wick and there is a child's clothes were you can get clothes and stuff, but she needs to get her act together. I told her she needs to get a job and needs a plan, but I know she won't do that. How do I make her realize that this baby isn't a pet, you have to think about the future and insurance and stuff! Help meee please!

Answer 1

sounds like she should consider giving up the baby she is ready to take care of it and neither is he. Biggest red flag is that she waited so long to go to the Doctor. the rest I could see her getting past. You know dumping the guy moving in with a family member or friend, go back to school that kind of thing but if she wasn't able/willing ot go to the Doctor before 5 months than she doesn't deserve the privilege of having a child

Answer 2

the best thing for her to do is move back with family. get on wic go to the nearest human resources department and get medicaid (medical assistance) and food stamps. tell her she needs to go get a part time job just for the experience. when baby is born file for full custody and reasoning is father is a alcoholic and drugatic he isnt reliable enough to watch his own child. oh also join this group freecycle.org in your area what the group does is recycle unwanted items whther its clothes furniture or what but it has helped me out alot with my major changes in the past year. i had moved into a house and had a baby and without freecycle i wouldnt of been able to furnish or dress my kids through the hardships

Answer 3

tell her to move out back into parents or some family.. to help her with the baby till she gets a job. she can already have wic.. gets her mil eggs cheese cereal.. she should already be on it. that way its easier when her child is born.. just transfer.. i have a 10 month old..and my life isnt completely straight but we manage

Answer 4

Hey!

Look Don't Worry I am going through the same. Shes 21  Pregnant, Single, No Job, No Money, Dont Go College. A flat which is a s**t whole,,, she is smoking and drinking now i hate the idea and if ya read my latest question thn yea the best thing i have found is make a decision do u wana b partr of the babys life or not thn STICK to it

and have fun having a nephew

Answer 5

the best thing you can do is not freak out and just do what you think is best

Answer 6

.Gosh! Isn't it a little late for planning. Your sis sounds irresponsible.She does not sound like she is able to take care of

herself. She will not be a good candidate for mother-hood. She would need to make big changes in her life style. This does NOT sound like a situation that a new born child should be brought into. I would predict...DISASTER!

Answer 7

To bad your sister is the one having the baby and not you, you sound like you would take good care of the baby.

Your sister may never grow up, who knows all you can do is offer help and try to be the best aunt you can be.

Answer 8

If you are really worried that she isn't going to take care of the baby (and if she is smoking and drinking while pregnant) call protective services. They will investigate and they can help her with things she needs. If she truly won't take care of her son, then they can take him away and put him in a home where he will be loved. But they have great resources and things they can do to help! If you are in an area with a good health department with visiting nurses, they can come out to her house and help with WIC and weighing the baby. Don't think you are going to hurt her by calling either, it will help her. If she does get him taken away, she just might get her c**p together and fight for him and end up being a great mother!

Answer 9

If she doesn't have a license, why is she driving her boyfriend around?

As for this baby that she's carrying,.....

It's obvious she is WAY TOO immature to raise a child.

But, who knows,...... her behavior may change after the baby's birth.

Just love her, support her, and give her advice on resources

that are out there to aid her and her son. WIC, welfare, food pantry

Don't judge her.

Don't tell her she's doing this wrong, or that wrong.

Be there for her, no matter what it is.