New Engagement Ring?

Question

Years ago when I got engaged, I thought my ring was a diamond. Upon further inspection, I discovered it wasn't and that my man didn't get, "ripped off" at all - he just didn't know any better. He basically just went out and bought some dingy ring off a shelf. (I know he tried, bless his heart).

It turned my finger green and eventually ended up corroded.

Now that we are older, wiser, and have stable employment, I'd like to get a new ring.

But my hubby doesn't see what the big deal is. He said, "maybe in a few years I'll surprise you."

I want to be there for the whole process - to keep history from repeating itself. I'm to the point where I'm about to just go buy my own ring, but I want it to be special for us.

Advice?

Answer 1

Don't buy your own, it will be kind of insulting for him.

Go shopping and start pointing out rings that you like.  So he knows what you like and where is an expectable place to get a ring.  I think he will get the clue.

Or if you dont think that will work, just sit him down and tell him exactly what you just said.  There is not reason why it should offend him.  Tell him you want to be there with him to pick the perfect ring you both will like, and that it will mean a lot to you if he could do this for you.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I can see what you mean and I completely understand.  I would make it clear to my husband that I love him so dearly and the first ring means the world to me and despite how the ring turns my finger green...I will never throw the ring away nor will I give the ring away.  I would completely tell my husband that I would like another ring to continue to bless our union/love and committment...and the only reason I would like another ring is because the present rings causes discomfort to my finger now.  I hope he understand and have a bless day.

Answer 3

i would buy my own ring.

Answer 4

I gave my fiance my 99 year old grandma's ring.  It was given to me cuz my gram loves my fiance.  The ring was rather small and had bezzle stones on the left.  My fiance loved the thought behind it but it was very different from what she really wanted.  So I went real big on the wedding band, but for a anniversary gift one of these years I'm gong to get her a new engagement ring.  I basically have asked her to write down exactly what she wants cuz I do want to surprise her.  But I want the cut, the approx size, color and type of gold.  Basically every thing she can tell me I want to know.  that way I can still suprise her but she gets what she wants.  I would do the same for your hubby.  If he just doens't get it then you have to go with him.  But I know for me, making it a suprise is kind of a big deal.

Answer 5

I can't say this loud enough...go to www.pricescope.com

They are insanely helpful with diamond searching and setting searching.  You can post the stats of a diamond and they'll tell you if its worth it or if the price is a good one.

You can still make it special by searching together.  This isn't a ring he's going to propose with so there's nothing wrong with looking for one yourself.

Answer 6

have a little faith in him that when he feels the time is right to surprise you with another ring he will have kearned his lesson and shop around for a good ring.  I mean the ring served its purpose of an engagement right at the time.  if your married now then what does it matter?  I say let him surprise you, but if you are that interested just in having a ring with no meaning behind it then by all means...go and buy yourself a ring.

Answer 7

Do it as a couple for your anniversary!!!  Tell him that you want to go ring shopping for your anniversary.  Then you can be there when he buys it and love what you got!

Answer 8

If having an engagement ring is so important to you, go to the store and buy one yourself.  Waiting may be to your advantage however.

My sister just ignored the issue (wasn't important to her) because he couldn't afford a ring at all and barely the wedding bands at the time they got married.  Her hubby surprised her with a 1 carat diamond for their 4th wedding anniversary this past Spring.   He even had the jeweler take into account that she was a gardener, so it doesn't catch on things.  Even better, her DIL helped as well (talk about making your stepmom feel great!).

Answer 9

Leave it to him - just tell him it needs to be real gold.

Answer 10

My fiance even went as far as asking what type of ring I wanted and still didn't get me what I wanted because he thought the one he picked would be better... At first I was upset, but then i realized the choice came from his heart and it's a symbol of his love for me and I find I came to love it more than any piece of jewelry I've ever owned.  Let him surprise you and remember it's the thought and consideration that counts not how much it costs, what it looks like or even what it's made of.

Answer 11

I know that feeling :)  my husband proposed with his mom's wedding ring .. it was a sentimental thing and I appreciated that ( she had passed away in 98) but then we used that ring for our wedding. He promised me that I could have my own set after we got married.. it took a while but I FINALLY got my own set that is ours not his mom's.  I just would point out pretty settings in magazines or walking through the mall.. then he finally said we could go look at some ( he just wanted to know prices)  then it was xmas time and we found the perfect set that I had been looking for and the price was great so I got my own set.. just be persisant...  Tell him that if he won't buy you that special set that you will get it for yourself and use the money you would've used to buy him gifts to buy it :)

Answer 12

Don't you think that its not what the ring looks like but the meaning behind it.  Have a little class and be happy you have a great man who worships you!