New Grandma- She doesn't care!!! What is her problem???

Question

My BF's mom is very, very stubborn. When the first grand child came into their lives, he was their world. Now they don't see him and won't get grand parent rights.

With their second grand child (my first), they were stand off-ish when we told them i was prego. Then they warmed up and were very excited. buying clothes and EVERYTHING possible. They even threw a baby shower (1 of 2).

When the baby came, grandma was ur typical MIL. Over baring, pushy, opinionated etc..

We used to live down the street from them so we would see them all the time. just about every day.

Now we live across town- we went from living in a tiny apartment to our own house.

The last time we heard from them was on Valentine's day. I have sent pictures, emails with pictures, we've called several times. Even tried to meet for lunch one day.

Answer 1

Sometimes you just can't work out people! I think that maybe she is the kind of person who just hates not having every done her way, so you get all or nothing.

Answer 2

Maybe the distance is what's causing the problem.  It's nice to send pictures and emails.  But what I have to remember (with my MIL) is that it's a two way street.  Communication goes both ways.  Maybe if you took the little one over to their house to visit once in a while, the relationship will be rekindled.  Maybe not.  It's worth a try though.  You don't want the little one to miss out on family just b/c you moved.

Answer 3

Maybe in their own way they are pulling themselves back because they may be afraid that the same thing will happen and they won't be able to see your child.  It's easier to get away from the situation yourself then to have someone take the child from you.

Talk to them.  See how they are feeling.  Maybe it is something else that you don't even know about.  Maybe someone is ill and they don't want to say anything.  It doesn't seem like they are just not wanting contact after being overbearing to begin with.

Answer 4

forget about her!see i have just the opposite problem my fiances mom is soo over protective of us and our children.i know its hard to except but give it some time.maybe shell come around.and if not her loss.i know having a grandma to take the child is often nice but eh if she doesnt want anything to do with him then so be it.there isnt anything you can do.

Answer 5

her loss.