New Moms did you go Through a period where it seems your baby likes te babysitter more?

Question

How did you cope?

Answer 1

Yes, and might hear them saying bizzare things like " your baby listens to me better than she/he listens to you" Dont take it to heart!

Babies prefer sitters because it is something new, almost like a break that you get when you go out on a Friday night without baby. Its a chance to breath and to experience a different person. Also, most babies feel like they aren't in their comfort zones, they can branch out and learn new skills.  

Answer 2

My son is 2 months old.

I do pretty well with him and when he cries I always know the problem.

But when he is just fussy sometimes I can't get him to stop and my in law (his grandma) can.

To cope: I try that much harder.

I read to him, show him colors, talk to him, let him watch tv.

I spend all my spare time with him.

And if it doesn't work for me, I usually just write in my journal.

It can be frustrating.

Answer 3

My sister is currently going through this with her 10 month old. But the baby spends a lot of waking hours with the sitter, so that is what makes it hard on a single working mom.

Anyway, I would suggest to you, as I did to her, is to be sure to set aside some "mommy and me" times....too many times, mommies get wrapped up the "duties" of being a mom: food, diapers, laundry, bath, bed....but you need to come home, and play...interact...etc.

She is realizing that things can wait....and just not trying to get it all done.  My niece has a better temperament too! Less cranky and better sleeping through the night...(probably cuz mom is wearing her out!). And now she has the time to get stuff done when she puts baby to sleep.  

She is a new/single/working/24 year old mother, who is trying to fulfill the roles of both mother and father....she isn't superwoman, but d**n she tries!! Motherhood is amazing...I'm sooo ready to make that journey with my hubby.

Congrats and good luck with your baby. :) All will be fine...i promise!

Answer 4

Yes, she would be so excited to go there. It made me sad, but when I picked her up she would be so happy to see me! I knew she didn't like the babysitter more than me, it just seemed that way :)

Answer 5

if you can, make sure the babysitter is someone (either family or good friend) you would like to remain a part of your child's life for the duration. I am still very close to many of the families and children I used to babysit  for long term. I am also very close to my childhood babysitter. If a family member is not available, then make sure childcare is provided by a loving role modell.   Your child was born to bond and form relationships.This will help her feel loved, safe and also help her learn. You will always be the primary relationship in her life during infancy and toddler hood,(ideally) childhood and through preadolescence.It is a very healthy sign, and a testament to your good mothering, that she can bond with her sitter. It is also a good sign that you have a wonderful childcare provider.  As a sitter, I would be heartbroken if I never heard from the babies and toddlers I helped to raise. Taking care of babies should never be just babysitting, and it is an undervalued, underpaid job. Odd considering how much we are otherwise willing to invest in our children.  Most people who sit either quit quickly or develop a real sense of purpose and love for what they do, and the children they do it for...sounds like you might have a good babysitter on your hands.(learn to love her like a family member.)