New Year's Eve wedding!?!?

Question

My fiance and i recently got engaged!! We talked about a date and decided on New Year's Eve 2009. Problem is, his mom thinks its a terrible date, since Xmas is the week before, and his family works alot in construction (December is typically our rainy season and she's worried they will be off work and not have alot of money). I found an amaizing place. They are going to let us used to roof top to have our reception, its in Las Vegas and its 2 streets from the strip. So at Midnight we can watch the fire works from the roof top. The hotel is also all suite. Their standard suite is approx 600 sq feet, with a seperate bedroom, living room with a pull out couch bed, wet bar and fire place. They are going to let our guests have the room for $129 on New Year's Eve! I just would like to know other peoples opinions. My family has mixed feelings, also does his. Thanks for any imput!!!

Answer 1

You're the bride, therefore what you want, is really a standard issue.  As long as you don't turn into a bridezilla.  

I think it's a great idea.  What a romantic time to spend with loved ones, everyone else will be off work as it falls within the holiday season.

Good Luck

Answer 2

I think it's a GREAT idea! My wedding anniversary is also New Years Eve and I must say that ALL of our guests were excited about having a huge party on NYE! Almost everyone ended up coming to my wedding so don't worry about the excuse of your guests are too busy with the holidays...they will love it as much as you do. Plus it sounds like you have an amazing location in an amazing city and also an amazing rate for your overnight guest! Go For It!!!!

Answer 3

Same problem as any other holiday - people might not appreciate missing New Year's Eve for your wedding. Not that that was a big consideration for me.

Question to consider though: will you later feel cheated about having your anniversary and such a big day overlap, instead of getting two celebrations?

Answer 4

It sounds like you REALLY, REALLY want to do this. So, even though the families have mixed opinions, I would say to do it. If your parents' are worried about money, they have an ENTIRE year-and-a-half to save up a little on the side and get ready for it. Plus, if it's the rainy season and they're off work, they don't really have an excuse not to come, right?

Have fun!

It sounds like you guys have thought this through, just drag your families along and have a great ride.

Congratulations!

Answer 5

Honestly going to a wedding on New Year's Eve would totally bum me out but then most New Year's Eves bum me out. But, it seems that your hearts set on this and you have an AWESOME deal so you should go for it! I mean it's your big day! You should have whatever you want. Besides who doesn't want to go to Vegas?!

Answer 6

First off, congratulations on your engagement!  You must be ecstatic : )

I think that this is an AMAZING idea.  It seems like something that would be unbelievably memorable and that both you and your fiance are really excited about.  Your wedding only happens once, and while I really don't recommend going in to debt for it, if you start living frugally and saving your families shouldn't have too many complaints.

I hope that this eases your mind and that you enjoy your engagement!  Best of luck in the future to you and your fiance!

Answer 7

What do you want more, that place on New Years Eve in Vegas with a small amount of family or all the family around you on your wedding day?

Answer that question and you will have your answer as to what to do.

If you were a friend or distant family member and I heard of these plans, I would know right away that I would probably be declining an invite to this wedding.  That time of year is very hectic, wallet-draining, and it is often hard to get time off of work.

Answer 8

it does sound like a good idea and very memorable. BUt think about the future as well. You anniversarys will be every new years...you want your anniversary to be private you know a  getaway every year with just you two and thats it. Not celebrating with all your friends/family. Thats like the biggest celebrating holiday there is new years....you want it to be about that and your anniversary seperate from everyone else...maybe use the vegas thing for a honey moon

Answer 9

If you already know there would be problems with them coming up with the money, why would you ask them to pay $129 for a room?  Its right after Christmas, and most people don't have extra money. Both of your families have expressed that they think this isnt a good idea, but you seem to already have things lined up.  I would change the date. Never get married around major holidays(valentines day, new years, christmas,and such) as vendors that already charge more for weddings will be able to raise the prices even more.

Edit:

So you are giving them a year to plan for your wedding, but if they don't have the money you expect them to charge a trip to see you, plus a gift, and pay for their own food and drinks(because you don't want to pay for a reception) on a credit card?  Thats very selfish.  You already know that they don't make a lot of money during the winter and you want to put them more in debt.

Answer 10

I wouldn't count on having a lot of guests if you're going with that date. A lot of people have trouble getting time off on New Years just for regular parties because most of their workplace wants it off as well. You need to make sure it will be convenient and possible for your guests if you really want them all there. His mom also brings up a good point about money since it is so close to christmas and people often do drain their bank accounts during that time. If anyone needs to travel they may not be able to afford it.

Answer 11

Other than the tax issue (which may or may not benefit you), I think it's fine to have a New Year's Eve wedding. The family will have PLENTY of notice.  Yes, it's true, those who don't plan ahead will either not buy you a gift or stay at the hotel, but that is their problem.

We're getting married between Christmas and New Years because more of his family will be here for that holiday already. Oh, yes, and because I used to work for H&R block, I HAD to calculate out whether it was better for us to wait until after New Years and it made little difference.  For some though, it can make several thousand dollars difference which can often be enough to pay for a small wedding.

As far as your annual celebration, realize that if you want to celebrate privately, ever year, by going out to dinner, quietly just ain't gonna happen. It is a HUGE evening when lots of people go out, not only to parties, but to eat out at restaurants. We are stay-at-home types, so not an issue for us.

Answer 12

I would have the wedding at 8 and the reception at 9, so people have time to eat dinner beforehand. But your plan sounds really special, and you're right - the people who really want to be there will be there. Be prepared for a small guest list, since it is the holidays, and have a great time!

Answer 13

Sounds like an unbelievable deal!  I'd take it if I were you.  Yes, some family members may feel stapped for cash, but "normal" hotel rooms usually cost between $50-$100 dollars and that's just for two double sized beds, nothing more.  Since it would be a holiday, send Save the Date cards well in advanced, along with hotel info.  I'm sure anyone who cares enough to attend your wedding will make sure to be there.