New Zealand, Australia or Leeds(UK)?

Question

Ok, I'm 27, I've found the girl of my dreams, and I know she's the one etc etc... and I live in Leeds...

I like New Zealand, been there four times, would like to live there.

Also like Australia, only been there twice for a quick visits, would like to spend more time there.

I work in IT and could very easily move to either NZ or Aus and really want to.

But my girlfriend won't even consider going on holiday there, never mind moving there. (she works in Law and would have to retrain to live there).

She says the only time we can go there is on our honeymoon and that the other side of Leeds is too far from her family...

What's everyone's opinion?

The only reason I'm staying in England is for her, but she won't even consider negotiating going there on holiday...

Answer 1

First things first, figure out which is more important to you - travel or the girl.    It doesn't have to be an either or situation, but if it comes to the crunch choose which one you could you live with out more  That is what will make or break your decision in the end.  

Moving to another country is not just like moving down the road.  There is a whole other culture and way of doing things to figure out.  There is the keeping in touch with the family thing.   If by some miracle you did manage to convince her to visit, I would strongly suggest you take a months holiday there first (use your honeymoon say).   Let her make her own choice on the matter without you giving a sale pitch.  If it isn't for her then it just isn't and no amount of ear bashing will make any difference anyhow.   I know as an Australian that I would have great difficulty moving to Europe and leaving all my family connections behind.    The only other alternative is to move her family there too with you LOL (leaving the mother in law 12000kms away might be better for both of you).

In my opinion, If you want the damsel then stay near her family.  If you move and she hates it,  you will be blamed for it for the rest of your life.  If you stay in the UK, you can always visit Oz and NZ at a time when you are both feeling adventurous.    Take a good hard look at where your priorities are.   Remember that a relationship is not just about you, and a marriage/long term thing requires a lot of putting her needs ahead of  your own.   If you find you can't do that and the world beckons you, then perhaps you need to take a longer look at what you want out of life and who you want to do it with.

Answer 2

Hey I'm a lawyer from Oz tell her I'll move over there and you can move over here :) I'd love to work in the Old Baileys.  There is no way a lawyer from the UK would want to step down and move to either Oz or NZ due to the different jurisdictions.  Truly her career is over there what you are asking of her is to leave all that behind, all that study etc etc and the system she grew up with knowing the law.  Most lawyers from Oz and NZ want to move to the UK to work if they could.  But then again it's a matter of lifestyle choices, nicer weather down here, less people, less crime, etc etc.  But she does have a point.  Stay in the UK and go on holidays when you retire then think about moving here with your millions :).