New military wife, husband just left this morning for deployment.?

Question

Ok so here it goes. My husband and I have been married for a little over 8 months. Everything has been great and I love him more than I can express. He just left this morning for our first deployment. He'll be gone for 4 months and I know it's not as long as other have been through, but I just miss him so much. Funny thing is when I was younger I always had it in my head that I could never be in a relationship with a military man, just for the fact of him having to be gone here and there. Then I met my husband and I just threw that thought in the garbage. I guess what i'm saying is that I feel like God has given me a test. Because I was so against me being in a relationship with someone in the military, he sent my husband to me, so that I can prove to myself, that I can do it and everything will be alright. I'm just asking what are some ways I can keep busy for the next 4 months. thanks in advance

Answer 1

You have some good answers here. But I just wanted to say thank you to you. Those who wait also serve.

Answer 2

You remind me of my lovely sis in law and she fell in love with my brother. She went to classes and I didn't like her at first, but she is good to my brother.She has proven that she is a good lady and she still judges me but it is OK. She is also much younger than me and I still love her.  your belief in God is refreshing and I will pray for his safe return home.  Take care and god bless you and family!

Answer 3

4 months wow you are lucky! I still have 7 months LEFT of waiting haha. well umm i stay busy by attending 18 credit hour classes in college, cleaning, studying, working out alootttt... i stay pretty busy lol.

maybe you can start taking cooking classes or something? the working out really helps. some days are gonna be really bad so hittin the track will release some of the bad feelings u will get.

congrats on the new marriage, keep up the good work and DONT CHEAT.

Answer 4

Volunteer, take a class for fun at your local Community College, get a part time job (or a full time one), become active in your church, join a gym, keep a journal, write him long letters, take up a hobby (or a few hobbies).

Good luck!  Also, look on the bright side--he will only be gone for four months, so while you might miss out on a couple of holidays and special events together, you won't have to miss them all for a year.  

Answer 5

If you don't have a job maybe you could get one, go to school or volunteer to keep busy.  Make sure you talk to each other as much as possible or email if you can and also talk to your family.  

Answer 6

Go back to school.

Join a health club and lose 40 pounds.

Create a MySpace page for you and him to stay connected.

Volunteer at the Base Hospital to kind of "be in service" as much as possible like he is.

Set a goal to save x amount of money for a surprise when he gets back.

Best wishes to you.  

And in case you don't hear it enough - you and your husband represent the best of this country.

Answer 7

Well your in luck...I was a military wife for 10 years...My husband was in the USAF and he went away all the time. It is never an easy thing to see the one you love go away but it is part of being a military wife as you already know. The best advise I can give you is to stay busy and meet some nice military wives you can call in times of need. Friends are really important and military wives stick together...Maybe you could also take some classes or get a job to take up some of your time. The worst thing you could do is nothing...The number one thing to remember is to not let your husband's job the military define who you are...Have your own life and your own identity...Don't be a helpless wife who becomes a wall flower. I know it's hard but trust me deployments with always be a part of your life from now on...Embrace that and understand it and then you can move on and know no matter what happens your love for each other will always come first. You will be fine and take my advice stay strong and you will be amazed how fast the time will fly by and your husband will be back home before you know it. Take care of you!

Answer 8

well my boyfriend moved away because his father was in the military and he had to go with him.

and i couldnt deal with the separation, so we broke up.

but i'm just 13 years old.

so i'd say to do wat people told me to do..

hang out with your friends, spend time with your family maybe, and then when he comes back,... you will appreciate eachother even more.

i hope i helped in some way.. =]

Answer 9

God works in mysterious ways and I think your lesson is about love NOT about the profession the one you love has. That is what God is, he loves us regardless of who we are or what we do.

Four months will go by fast if you find a part time job, or maybe volunteer work. The main thing is to keep yourself busy and keep yourself honest and faithful until you see your husband again. Good luck! Don't forget there are thousands of other military women who are going through the same thing. If they can do it, so can you.

Answer 10

Thank You for all that you both do to keep us free. I'm going threw my 2nd deployment as we speak. My husbands in the Army. The last deployment was 14 month's and it definitly can take a toll on you. But like you said if you can find ways to keep you busy it will help. If you look up your local YMCA. They have military discounts there and if your husband is over seas you can go there free. Also a another idea you could write down things that you've always wanted to do or get better at. Like for me. I would love to learn how to cook different foods. So I have been looking into cooking classes and when my husband gets home he will be like Wow. =)- Or sell stuff on Ebay. You could create a site that you can upload pictures for your husband and tell him about your day and that will help keep you busy. Good Luck and I hope your time goes quick. =)

Answer 11

I never understand when people ask what can they do to keep busy.  What do you mean?  You live life, just make sure it doesn't include another man or another woman for that matter in a romantic or sexual way.  You do the same things you use to do, go out with friends, volunteer, what ever your life is comprised of.  I do have a suggestion, make sure that you are available for phone calls.  If he says he is going to call at a certain time, try not to miss his call.

Answer 12

I am going to blow your mind! You are going to become an expert in the area of whole food cooking. You are going to study what it takes to eat healthy. You will take classes and read how to make fantastic meals. You will learn to make all kinds of pasta dishes, home made ice cream, cooking with herbs that you grew in you container garden, use of all the different squashes coming into season, etc., etc. You will invite friends over to try out, sometimes disastrous, your new dishes you created. In four months you will stand in, I AM a serious whole food cook. So here is the deal....the test is not to just see if you get through the absence of your husband. Your test is to see what you can create while he is gone that will make a difference. When you share with your husband what you are up too, he will say these exact words, "YOU HAVE TO BE KIDDING! YOU? COUNT ON ME TO BE HOME FOR DINNER!" Bottom line is, become an interesting person, not just another person waiting for their husbands to get home. That's what people do.

  

Answer 13

hi I am a military wife now for 3 years, so yeah its hard mainly when u have two kids. Its so hard mainly at night and when u wake up in da mornings also. But being a army wife is fun too u get to travel and do fun things and u get alot of benifits. 4 months is not hard try 18 month that sux. I would tell u all the things they do out there but I might make worry even more. So just hang in there and just stay bizzy stay in touch with ur family thats what keeped me bizzy, was them and my kidoz.