New moms: Is this a good idea?

Question

I'm a single pregnant woman who is almost 36 weeks along with my first baby. I am planning to stay with my mom and dad for the first couple of weeks after my baby gets here. My mom was an ob nurse for many years and also has 4 children, and I know nothing about babies. I figure it'll be nice to have her there for support and education. Do you think this is a good idea, or will the situation get on my nerves?

Answer 1

i think its great you'll need all the help you can have. the first few months especially weeks are super hard because you will be very drained

Answer 2

Stay with your mom! You will learn so much. When you are stressed, your baby is stressed-- which will make you more stressed! Having your mom there will certainly help.  

Answer 3

I'm sure there will be times that you'll get on each others wick, it's natural, but it is nice to have your mum for the first few weeks after your first is born.

Good luck and enjoy your bub!

Answer 4

I would say that it is a good idea.  Having your first baby is a lot of work. Trust me I just had mine 2 weeks ago. You have to sleep when they sleep and live by there schedule. There is no time for going to the store or other errands. Having your mom to help is so nice because she holds the baby when you just need a couple more hours of sleep or when you want to shower etc. I would say do it for atleast 2 weeks and you will be so glad later on. Yes it will get on your nerves but trust me it will be worse by yourself. Oh and mother's have advice about things you never would have thought of such as how to properly breast feed, change a diaper, what to do when your kid won't stop screaming etc. Good luck to you and congrats! It is well worth it!

Answer 5

I think thats a good idea, as long as thats what you want to do.  That way you can rest up and your mom can teach you a few tricks here and there.  However if you prefer for her to come to your house, then maybe you should ask her to.  Whatever makes you happy though.

Answer 6

I like the idea of having your mom around, but it might be an easier adjustment for both you and the baby if she came to stay with you rather than you staying with her. That way you could develop a routine and the baby could get used to it's surroundings. Smells are very comfortable to small babies and each home has a very unique smell. Good luck!

Answer 7

I think it's a nice idea if you have a good relationship with your mom.

Answer 8

Yes, experience is the best teacher

Answer 9

I think it is a great idea.  Speaking from experience..being alone with my first baby because fiance was out to sea.;...i would have LOVED to have that extra help.  Everything is so overwhelming.  Having your parents help will be good.  People are different though with their babies.  Some people do get annoyed and want to be left alone.  But your mom being experienced probably would know that and will give you your space. A good friend of mine wanted no help and didnt want anyone to touch her baby. Me on the other hand was like here you can hold him! Dont be scared! lol. So it just depends on you.  But it will be nice to have that extra hand or two.  You are going to need sleep and time to relax.  Doing it alone... its hard to have that.

Answer 10

its the best idea. u need someone to help SPECIALLY the first few weeks. thrust me u couldnt have made a better choice. and congratx and good luck = )

when my son was born my husband was in iraq and thats exactly wat i did. couldnt have made a better chioce  

Answer 11

I think it sounds great and I was jealous when I was reading this! If you end up needing a c-section you will definitely need lots of help like I did but only had my husband home for two weeks.

Good Luck!

Cheryl

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Answer 12

I am 20 years old and a single parent, and I moved in with my parents! (also my first baby) honestly, it was really nice to have them around. They are always there for me when I have questions, and help me show me things I dont know. I dont think the situation would get on your nerves, and if it starts just talk to them about it, I am sure they will understand. I also noticed that, my parents are sometimes more right then the doctors, every baby is different. Im not saying dont listen to the doctor, but first time moms (like myself) tend to over analyze the problem, whereas your parents will be able to know the real situation because of their experience. I do think it is a good idea, not only would u like the help, but I am sure they would love to see their grandchild.

Answer 13

I think it's a great idea.  She will be able to help you greatly and even give you a break now and then so you can catch up on sleep.  It might get on your nerves depending on your relationship with your mom but you will appreciate her help I'm sure.

Answer 14

I think it is a wonderful idea.  Your mom will be there to help and offer advice.... and also help you get a little rest. (Which any women needs after having a baby.)  She will be able to be there with you until you feel comfortable and secure in being a mother.  And considering she was an OB nurse for many years..... she will understand the importance of you and baby bonding..... and will probably give you and baby sometime to yourselves each day.  It sounds wonderful.  Don't worry about what may go wrong or irriatate you.  Focus on this beautiful event of your life that you get to share with your parents!

Answer 15

ok its a good idea for a little while but once you get the hang of it then it will drive you crazy. lol gl ans congrats on the baby.