New moms any advice?

Question

What would you do if you felt like you and your spouse were growing apart? We have been married four years and it seems like nothing is the same anymore. He use to look at me with this deep loving stare that is totally gone. It seems like we co exist but thats all. I cant get him to want to spend time with me. Example, yesterday, I asked if he wanted to go watch fireworks and he was to tired. Tonight, however he is at a ball game with a friend he went straight from work and now its 2 am and hes still not home. I called and even went to voice mail he texted me at 10:30 and said the game was over and he was going to hang out with his friend. I feel very alone. I wish he wanted to do things with me. Part of me thinks he stays with his friends to avoid me. I dont know what to do and how not to feel so depressed. Do you think this is just post partum depression? Any advice?

Answer 1

what an ***! he is not only a husband but also a dad it sounds like he need to get his priorities stright you and his baby are more important than friends and ball games he needs to be with you and his kid protecting y'all at night like the man of the house should be doing!!! now as far as him not looking at you the same maybe you guys could get counseling to see whats really going on! good luck dont worry to much about him you have a baby now that actually NEEDS you!

Answer 2

When you live with someone for awhile you take them for granted.

Sad but true.

You need to fall in love with each other.

This may sound a bit daggy but have a 'date' night. Remember WHY you fell in love in the first place, have fun with each other.

But remember you cannot be attached to the hip!

It is good to have some time to your self.

Why don't you have a friend over when he is out with his friends?

Answer 3

You poor thing, it does sound like your spouse is behaving very badly at the moment. However, your priority is your beautiful baby. If you are depressed he will pick up on it. Make an appointment to see your doctor as soon as possible. If you are suffering from post partum then this can be dealt with. Your doctor may even be able to put you in touch with some support groups. Once you have got yourself back on track you will find it much easier to deal with the other issues. Good luck!

Answer 4

try to change things up or do stuff he wants to do. but not steppping the boundarys.