New schedule, dont talk to anybody?

Question

So i just started school and i have a new schedule. In some of my classes there are people i know and talk to a lil. But alone i dont know how to talk to them. Or they usually talk to their other friend who ive met before but never really talked. They usually talk about stuff they did together. I have no idea how to get into the conversation. So i just sit their quietly, and feel like a moron. They just talk to much for me, im not very talkative like most of the people in my school. I also have assigned seat and sit next to this boy who was in my class last year but i dont talk to. Hes like this ghetto type thinks hes all cool and i have no idea how to talk to him. At least try to get along while im sitting next to him. I just feel like an outcast, but im not i think im neutral, i blend into the background. How can i fit in better??

Answer 1

i know exactly how you feel i'm the exact same way i hate talking to much because i don't know what to say especially to people i don't know or who i've never talked to before!!!! the best thing you can do is smile! answer when asked a question and the conversations will start to come easier! to fit in better be yourself because then no one can tell you your doing it wrong be nice and fit your opinions or own stories in to conversations cut loose have fun you only live once now if only i could take my own advice!! hope i helped  

Answer 2

be yourself, that boy you sit next to, just him waz good? and i hope you do it weid tho, but for the other gurls just start by asking them like how did they meet? what do they do for fun and stuff like that so u can have something to talk abt.

in my economic honors class i know most of the kids well i've seen them around but i dnt talk to them, i'm ok wit it. i'm a shy person.  

Answer 3

Don't push yourself onto anyone...be yourself. if they are going to like u. it should be for you and not for someone u are pretending to be. opposites attract. usually someone that is quiet becomes friends with someone that is more outgoing..if they are acting stuck up and stand offish, most likely they are...do you want to be friends with someone like that? you are not an outcast, hon. just trying to get in where you fit in. and that's a part of life...if its meant to be...it will be. Good luck!

Answer 4

Shine bright, shine far! Be a star!  Just kidding, but I had to babysit today.

Try being friends with guys, and then you'll be friends with girls who are the guy's friends.   And as for the "ghetto" guy, just comment here and there.  Not too much.

Answer 5

hey girl, i know how you feel, im in the same situation as you. All i promised myself is to take baby steps, and take it slowly. In example, start by saying hi to the person next to you in each class. Then ask questions like when does this class end, or anything that requires simple answers. From there try answering questions from the teacher. Afterwards, try saying like so what are you guys doing this weekend, or just say something like "This class is long", all these little things count, making you better for the day after tommarow and so on. Remember that its just people! Do not let your mind trick you by saying that "what if they do not like me", or "what if they think im this", as they cant read your thoughts in your head, you cant read theirs either! So do not jump to conclusions. They will either have respect to who you are, or otherwise they can deal with their problem by themselves. Start off slowly though, it will acutally seem more sense, instead of just blabbering from one day to anthor. Its alright, they can be having the same problems as you, since they only talk to their close friends, there scared of talking to someone new. They just dont show it as much, because they have a friend. Its all in the mind! Do not feel like an outcast, we can all fit in. Just try being nice, and yourself. Soon you will break the silence =] and gain new "social" skills.

And remember that you cannot please everyone, so if there is some person you cant really relate or talk to, just talk to someone else, doodle, or send some text messages, its alright. Not everyone clicks, so just apperciate the new friends that do click.