Newborn's Funeral???

Question

On 08/08/08 my sister gave birth to premature baby boy. Unfortunately my nephew did not make it. Today is his funeral. I wanted to be there for my sister so bad but there is just no way I could get there (she is stationed in Ft Bragg, NC and I live in FL). Is there anything I can do from here to show her that i'm here if she needs me?

Answer 1

why dont you just call her and let her know that you couldnt make it but that even though your so far away you still support her wit everything ( sorry for ur nephew death)

Answer 2

Send her something that she will always have and attach a card with exactly what you just said.Tell her you love her to no extremes and will always be there whether by phone or in person you are there for  her. good luck

Answer 3

Just be there for her and call today. Maybe send some flowers with a card?

Answer 4

If you have no funds, could a family member lend you the money ?

of can you take out a small loan and just drive up there???

Seems like your sister really needs you girl, and just try your best to go down there.

But if it's just impossible then you should keep doing what you're doing, call her and be there for her listen to her and just let her cry and talk things out with you. You should send her something. Same thing happened to my Best Friend 2 yrs. back in November and I took care of all the funeral arrangments and paperwork but also after everything was said and done I wrote a poem for her and printed it on very nice paper with her babies photo in the bkgd transparent and went to the store framed it and gave to her and the family as one of there gifts, they loved it and really meant alot to them.

You should also plan sometime soon to go visit her, the hardest part is after everything is finalized the loneliness & thoughts will surround your sis. and that's when she'll really need you. Keep praying for her.

Answer 5

I have a similar situation. I have a daughter that I had at 30 weeks gestation she has been in the hospital for 3 months.  We meet a couple whom we became close too. Their son shared a room with my daughter.  This week he went home to be with the LORD he was 5 months old the day he went home.  I want to do something for the family but I don't know what.  Do you have any suggestions?

Answer 6

Why couldn't you make it to the funeral??? I REALLY don't want to assume something wrong; I REALLY hope you have a legimate excuse. But I noticed that you asked a question a few days ago and stated you were going on a cruise - please tell me the reason you couldn't go to the funeral is NOT because you are on that cruise! I just know that if it were my sister, I'd be there. NO MATTER WHAT!

I'm not trying to sound hateful. I just can't understand why you wouldn't be able to go.

Answer 7

take a plane girl jump off a bridge thats your sister up there that needs you by here side and a nephew who you never got to know girl if i were you i would be up there faster than you can wink an eye

Answer 8

Be there for her to cry on your shoulder (not literally). Contact her at least a couple of times a week to see how she is doing and if she wants to talk about it, or if she really doesn't. Sometimes friends and families are so uncomfortable when something tragic like this happens, they avoid the person grieving because they don't know what to say or do. So she probably needs you a lot.

You can Google support groups for moms who lost their preemies online. You can also check here: http://www.kingproductions.com/babylink3...

It would likely be helpful for her to talk to or contact by forum someone who has gone through the same thing. Sometimes it's hard for others to understand, like the loss of a preemie isn't the same as the loss of a full term baby. (Some people are so insensitive!)