Newborn and my 3 year old son doesnt want to use potty, how do I get him to use the potty again?

Question

My son has gone backwards in toilet training. We have a new baby in the household and i've noticed that my son doesn't want to use the potty at all. How can my husband and I get him to use the potty again?

Any advice would be great. thanks

Answer 1

Very normal behavior for your toddler. He is probably jealous of the new baby getting all the attention. Just make sure that he is receiving just as much attention that he did before. Remind him that he is a "big brother" now and that he has to be a "big boy" and help to teach the "little bitty baby" one day to be a big boy (or girl) too. Know what I mean? Make him proud to be a big brother and just go crazy when he does go to the potty.

Answer 2

This is basically a reation to the newborn. My 3 year old started wetting the bed when our latest baby was born. It lasted about 2 months and then it pasted. Don't make an issue out of it. Its just his way of coping with the baby; if you force the issue he will be more resistant to go to the toilet again. Give him sometime to except the baby and then start the toileting.

Answer 3

Make sure that he understands that altough he isn't the baby in the house anymore, he is just as important.  Give him lots of one-on-one attention, and reward him for good behavior.  Give him more responsibility.  i.e. Let him help you with the baby, bottles, getting diapers, throwing them away, choosing which one of a few different outfit choices for the baby to wear (there are a lot of ways you can get him involved).....and then when he helps you, shower him with praise.  Go totally overboard with it.  Three year olds love to help and to be told what a big kid they are.  Tell him that you're SO glad he knows how to use the potty, cause it helps mommy.  Tell him that when the baby is big enough, he can help mommy teach baby to use the potty too, and so he needs lots of practice.  You can totally use psychology on him.  Basically, just don't let him feel like he needs to revert back to being a baby in order to get the same amount/quality of attention as the baby.

Answer 4

this is completely normal, so many toddlers regress when a new bub arrives. Just be positive and possibly do a star chart for when him with the potty, explain that he is such a clever big boy and when he uses the potty he gets a star and when he get X amount of stars he gets a prize, (book playdough $2 etc) My niece did this when little sis arrived but soon caught on that she was more "clever" cos she could use the potty but the bub could not.

Good luck!!

Answer 5

a reward system, go to the dollar tree. let him look and when he says OOHHH, MOMMY MOMMY I WANT THAT, come back and buy a few that he liked....and a pad of stickers.

next tack a piece of contruction paper (or watever paper u have) over the toilet. tell him everytime he uses the potty right, he gets to add a sticker to the paper....after he has so many stickers, he gets the toy....(10 times is a good start) but everytime he goes into the bathroom make sure that he sees the toy too remind him to go correctly.......keep it on the bakk of the toilet or on a shelf if u have 1

hope it helps, it worked w/ all 4 of my little brothers! : )

Answer 6

Just give him time =) and if that doesnt work, try helping him =) and if that still doesnt work force him or tell him or talk to him about it =)

Answer 7

Tell him thats what big boys do. And try to see if you can find his fav character on a training potty

Answer 8

Try, what Dana Carvey calls, the two parent routine. One parent throws out the idea and the other sucks in air and says in an excited voice, "THE TOILET! YOU'RE SO LUCKY!" try and make it sound exciting or make diapers seem like a thing big boys don't do. Gl. Eventually he'll start using it. I was three when I started using it.

Answer 9

OMG I totally understand my 3yr old will not go to the pot!!!!!!!!!!! But the can walk around the d**n house singing and dancing but will p**s and s*** in his d**n pull up....We even ask him where is he suppose to pee and #2 and he would point to the d**n toliet but wont go!! Im 5 weeks and i be damned if I pay for diapers and pull ups so he better do something fast being that I'm pregnant my nose is very sensitive I cant stand the smell of my own let alone his c**p!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (sorry I had to vent lol)

Answer 10

My son did exactly the same thing when our daughter arrived.

It's normal, so don't worry.  It's a jealousy thing. He wants to be the baby again, in a way, because the new baby is getting so much of your attention.

Just give him an incentive. Make a big deal of it when he does.