Newly divorced & lonely - now what?

Question

Recently got divorced and now wondering if I did the wrong thing. I didn't love my husband and I was in love with someone else who was also getting divorced. He ended up staying with his wife and now I'm alone, with a couple of kids and i'm so lonely, my husband, boyfriend and kids have been my life for years, at least I've still got my kids but I am so lonely. I don't want another relationship, I don't think I will ever trust anyone again.

Answer 1

In life, every action has a reaction. You've just seen the results of yours.

Answer 2

Sorry sweetheart. This is the effects of your actions. Try getting involved in a church. You need that spiritual connection now and you may even meet someone there that is actually trustworthy. Make something positive out of your mistakes. Good luck!

Answer 3

Enjoy your FREEDOM.  

Go out every now and then.

Life is too short.

Answer 4

Well, I'm not going to give you any self righteous answers (like some posters, sheesh get off the soap box).

But you took a chance with love.  It was quite a risk, your marriage must have been quite problematic.  He made promises and while you kept yours he didn't keep his.

Let your heart heal.  It will, if you let it.  A sunset is still beautiful, a rose still smells nice, and there are many good things about life, including your kids.

Not all men keep their word, but not all men break theirs either.  Not all men can love like you need and deserve to be loved, but some men can.  Give it time, and when your heart is ready and enough time has passed you may just find that man.  But when that happens remember to draw from the past, don't let the past draw from you.

Answer 5

lol that's what you get, your heart is broken and so is your ex husbands heart

Answer 6

Oh ya, blame it on everyone else. Safe place to be. It is you, who you cannot trust. Get straight with yourself, sister. Then there may be light at the end of the tunnel.

Answer 7

I hate to sound mean but that's what you get for giving up your family (your husband ) to be with somebody who didn't do the same for you.  A couple may have it's ups and downs but most men are going chose someone they are dating over their wife, no matter what they tell you they're gonna do.

Answer 8

Well,go look in the mirror and see who is to blame for this.Next time maybe you should reconsider cheating on your husband.And remember how it feels when the grass really is not greener on the other side.I can't say I feel too bad for you though.

Answer 9

You have to take time to rebuild yourself now, and learn to love life again. And learn that you CAN love another.

Divorce isn't the end of life.

Answer 10

don't worry and do not think so much.. remember, you are not the only person alone. be strong! get out there and do anything that you want.. it will make thing better. i bet you will enjoy your life.. !! god bless you!!

Answer 11

now you pick up the pieces, learn about yourself and why you chose to be married and have children with a man you didn't love; learn why you have so little self-esteem that you allowed yourself to play second fiddle to a married man; hold your head up high and move on, you have children that need their mom to be their for them; your divorce has pulled the rug out from under them....one day at a time, one step at a time; learn to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made and move on.....

Answer 12

You divorced your husband for man who was cheating with you on his wife...Did you reallyy expected him to be honest toward you...you both were cheating.  You have made your bed, now you must lay on hard.

I would say I am sorry for your pain,but you brought this on yourself.

Get over it and move on..because your ex-husband will never trust you again.

Answer 13

First of all why are you stuck with the kids?  Tell their father that he gets them 50% of the time.  Why should he be foot loose and fancy free?

Rest assured that your boyfriend is not feeling the love at home.

You have a second chance to find that special someone who will love you.  Now go out and enjoy yourself.  Take classes and do things that YOU love.  You will then meet people of like interests.

You are one lucky chick, just don't get bogged down by being a mommy.

Answer 14

What was the reason for you getting a divorce from your husband.I mean you have to think about your children and how this divorce is going to effect them.If you didn't love your husband why did you marry him? Did you ever try getting back with your husband for your kids sake?

Answer 15

Don't get caught up in the past.  Move forward and change your way of thinking.  Go out and enjoy yourself with some friends.  Eventually you'll meet someone who will complete you again.

This is just a temporary set back in life but you will move forward again, to a better you.

Have fun!  Mistress Solly