Newly married and cheated?

Question

i just married a sweet, loving man that i dated for almost 5 years. at my bachelorette i was a little drunk and ended up sleeping with the male entertainment. the dancer came to our hotel room and we went into the bathroom afterwards.

i was drunk and do regret it. it happened two months ago and my hubby has no idea. i do feel guilty and was wondering is it better just to forget it or should i say something to him?

has this ever happened to anyone here or do yu know anyone it has happened to and what did they do and what was the outcome?

please help

Answer 1

It was before the marriage.  Forgive yourself.  Watch the drinking.  Be faithful to him from here on out, showing him appreciation and treating him like your king.  He chose you above all other women.

Answer 2

It was one time, in a one-time situation. Get yourself tested for STDs. If you are clean, forgive yourself and move on. There's no sense in making your husband suffer by confessing.

Unless, of course, you got something you could've passed on to him. Then you need to tell him so he can get tested, too. And I guess you can pretty much kiss the marriage good-bye.

Answer 3

I don't know whats more disgusting, you doing that, or you keeping something like that from him. A marriage is about trust and commitment, you are obviously not ready for that, poor guy

Answer 4

Well, how would you feel if he did that to you?  do what you would want him to do if he did that to you.

Answer 5

I know two women who did. They didn't say anything but they are trashy like that anyways. Who actually gets married anymore anyways? I mean, he almost deserves.

Answer 6

I've been to two bachelorette parties where the bride to be cheated. My advice is NEVER tell your husband and don't ever do it again!

Answer 7

You slept with the entourage? You slept with the male entertainment?

He can get fired for one thing, and I thought you gals thought that **** was tacky anyway.

If you want to break up your marriage or get it annulled you should tell him. Otherwise I say you keep it to yourself.

Answer 8

Best to forget it an focus on your marriage. All it will do is tear it apart now.

Answer 9

This is a mis-post. Ask this in the family and relationships section. THIS IS NOT A GENDER ISSUE.

Answer 10

WOW! I hope you've stopped drinking all together, after that... I also hope, that you were smart enough to use protection... Because if you forgot about it in a heat of the moment, you better move fast and do a complete blood work on yourself and your poor husband. Boy, I would hate to be walking in your shoes... However, if you are safe and healthy, do keep this dirty secret to yourself. And try to live your life with dignity, so it would be nothing in there to be ashamed of. Remember: your man deserves a loyal and loving wife. All you have to do is be that for him in your future together.

Answer 11

and people wonder why marriage is a dumb idea. Personally as long as you didn't get knocked up or get an std from the encounter ehh.

      Because I know a good many guys that would dump you on the spot. Once a cheater always a cheater.

        

       (Insert everything feminist say when a husband cheats)

Answer 12

I just hope there was no one there who knows you two. Yeah, I did know some one; just like you she was walking on very brittle egg shells.  Oh boy are you ever in a quandry.  Tell you what you had better keep your mouth shut and hope that every one else who knows you, two will keep their shut, too.

Answer 13

Don't let it eat you up, it was a one time thing in a unique situation, if you tell your husband you risk destroying a beautiful life you may have together.

Answer 14

If I were you I'd keep it to myself.

Answer 15

Confessing could ruin your marriage so if you think you can live with yourself, it might be best to let it go. However, it might be smart to quit drinking since it could lead to something like this happening again.

But if it's going to tear you up inside, I can't see you having a very happy marriage or life for that reason. Sometimes, even if it makes the s**+# hit the fan at first, it's often better to just get the truth out in the air and give him the chance to react to it.

He might leave you but would you want him to stay with you based on lies?

Answer 16

Ask your psychiatrist.

Answer 17

you know what he deserves better than you. when people get drunk it brings out their real personality. you are a very trashy person i hope you don't have kids.