Nicest was to say no to family wanting to come visit for 2 weeks!

Question

Here's the deal- sister in-law, recently divorced, kinda turned into a total s***k now wants to come visit with latest boyfriend for 2 weeks in the fall. She spent all her kids college money so I know she is looking for a free vacation. The last boyfriend is probably her 6th (no joke) since August last year so I doubt he will be the one coming with her. She is almost 50 and has turned into a completely different person- honestly, she makes me uncomfortable. My husband (her brother) doesn't want her here either but we don't want to start a family war, just don't want her here. (she would be coming from Europe so its a long way- a weekend is out of the question) Any suggestions on how to deal with an in-law like this??

Answer 1

Just tell her its really not a good time for you guys now.  If she asks why just tell her you guys are working through some things and really dont want visitors.  She does not have to know specifics and you are working through something, a way of not having her come visit.

Answer 2

U TELL HER U DONT NO IF U WILL B HOME AROUND THAT TIME,,N THAT U DONT HAVE ROOM FOR HER TO STAY,,CAUSE IF YOU DONT PEOPLE LIKE HER MOVE IN,,AND BREED LIKE c**k ROACHES,,I NO I HAVE A FEW IN OUR FAMILY..LOL...PEACE

Answer 3

well you need to say to her you don't think you will be able to accommodate her and her guest tell her you have personal issues you are dealing with and that it wouldn't work out.  If there is anything related to that add on to it but its personal and private if she ask.

Answer 4

I have been in a similar situation.  Too many times!  This has to come from your husband and he has to tell her that it won't work out for her to come and stay.  He doesn't have to tell her why, just that it's inconvenient/not a good time, something along those lines.  If she pushes him on it he should tell her, as nice as possible, why.  His first obligation is to you, your kids (if any), and your home.  His obligation to his sister comes after that.  But the only way to guarantee there won't be a war is to let her come and stay.  So you have to decide, do you want to risk the visit or the war.  If you're willing to risk the war then tell her no and don't feel guilty about it for one minute.  People like that usually have lots of people they can leech off of.

Answer 5

why lie just tell her I don't want your S****y *** in my house...just kidding I agree with Rightnow and some of the others...Good luck to you