Nightmare, can't get it off of my mind!

Question

I rarely dream so this one has really gotten to me. In it I am buckling my 14 year old son into an amusement park ride. He is arguing with me because he wants to sit down on the ride but I tell him on this ride he has to stand up. So, he is standing and buckled in, the ride starts and very quickly springs high into the air, it is higher than anyother ride I have ever seen in real life. As it gets to the top, he begins to lean forwrd with his hands in the air, he falls forward and falls out and begins to plummet toward the ground. I saw exactly what he was wearing( a favorite Bears shirt that he saved and bought himself), and could see the fear on his face. I can't see him hit the ground but I hear the thud. I can't move, I just sit in the seat screaming" Aaron's dead, Aaron's dead!!" I woke up at that point and that was a week ago and I just can't get it out of my mind.

Answer 1

When  I have a really bad nightmare. I sit down with pen and paper and write it out as best as I can remember it. Then rip it up and throw it away, or I tell someone about it. I not sure why but it helps alot just to get it off my mind.  Try this technique and see if it works for you. I know how hard it is to get something that scary off your mind.

Answer 2

You might be worried that your son is growing up too quickly, and your worried about the kinds of choices he will make when he's out on his own, and if you have taught him everything he needs to know to be a good person. I think the fact that he "died" wearing the shirt he bought himself, and you buckling him in standing up kinda point to those things.

I think it's normal for any mom to be worried about her son leaving her, but you just have to have faith in yourself. You are raising him in the best way that you can. He's bound to make mistakes on his own, but that is part of growing up.

Answer 3

Sounds like this dream is a reflection of feeling you are inadaquate and not providing what you should for your son.

If this sounds true at all, try looking at how you can improve on what you are doing for his needs, either emotional or physical.

Remember guilt never does any good. Its meant to be an idicator that something is out of whack.Best wishes