No! No! No?

Question

I tell my daughter many NO NO and she ignors me.LOL

when she is doing something that she is not suppose to do I go to her, go down to her level and I say NO with a firm voice and lead her out of that area.

It seems that it doesn't work though.... I know she understands the word, bcs when she does the same thing again she looks at me waiting for me to say NO.

I don't know, does she think this is a game? should I be more firm with her? should I do it differently? HELP

she is 11 1/2 months old.

Answer 1

She is a little young to be yelling at.  Probably doesn't even understand what you are saying.

Answer 2

No is a terrible word and does not work,i have a 6 and 15 year old and please don't do that works much better,

I learned  a long time ago when my eldest was 1 the more i shouted no the more she ignored me,

I would go up to her and say please don't do that.

Eventually it worked

Answer 3

instead of saying NO get done to her level and ask her why is she doing this and try to tell this is wrong or tell her she will be hurt. Maybe if its repetitive she is trying to get your attention, is she doing this while you are doing other things, give her something to do, sometimes getting them to help in some small way.

Answer 4

i don't know one 11 month old that you can discipline easily if at all.  You're doing the right thing by saying no firmly and taking her away from the situation.  That's all you can do. And that's what you'll keep doing over and over and over and over again.  She's super young...

Answer 5

Don't worry it's not a game.

This is your child simply learning.  It is tiring isn't it?!

Seiously though, this is a very good learning time for your baby. She is learning how you react to things. (Which is why this is a prefect time to learn to patience and firmness) She is also learning what HER limits are.  It's a very psychological time...it is great that you take her away from what she shouldn't be doing right after you tell her no.  You can ever try telling her why it's not good for her to do those things.

Also, make sure that you're spending enough playtime with her...because if she keeps looking and waiting for you to say something.  Believe me, this is a vital learning period.   Some kids it just takes longer for them to get it.

Most importantly: be patient.

Answer 6

I agree with Nikki....   Let me add also,  Whenever she continually disobeys you, give her just 2 "no"'s then a 2 minute time out (because she's so young this should be enough time).  Make her sit on a chair away from everything and everyone.  Do not talk to her at all!  but make her continue to sit there.  Keep doing this as long as it takes.  Don't be mean, just firm.  Tell her, "I think it's time for a time out."  If she refuses (which she will at first) be firm and continually place her on the seat... If you can get a stool high enough that she can't reach the floor with her feet, that would be better... just keep an eye on her so she doesn't falll off! ;)  This worked for me!  

A lot of people put the kids in their rooms for punishment.  This is not a good idea because the bedroom is supposed to be the place of comfort and rest.  We don't them want to associate it with punishment.  Plus, all their toys etc are in there! so what punishment would that be? lol

Best wishes!!!

Answer 7

It will work.  Yes, she probably thinks it's a game right now, but if you are consistent, she will learn that it is not a game.  

Consistency in discipline  is the key to well behaved children.  You are at a very important time right now when you have to decide if you are going to be a consistent, firm mom or if you are going to teach your daughter that you only mean what you say until she proves her will to be stronger than yours.  You are setting the precedence right now for her behavior for the rest of her childhood.

You know those disobedient,screaming kids you see out in public that seem as if they don't listen to their parents at all?  Those are the kids who, when they were babies, their parents set the precedence for letting the child call the shots.  When they were at that all important crossroad (as you are now), they didn't remain consistent, and instead, allowed their child to listen and obey only when he/she did it easily.

It IS easier to just 'give in' and let her do whatever, and her little smile is probably so cute when your trying to be serious! But you can't instill in her that she needs to listen to you if you don't remain consistent.

Good luck.  It's fun being a mommy and the joy and love is so great. !  :-)

*********ADDED

Here's why the "no" should be used and said. (as opposed to the new age "experts" who will say to not use it)

In real life, we are told no.  If we want to speed, we are told no  If we want to beat up the idiot in the car in front of us, we are told no.  Maybe not in so many words, but rules mean NO.  We need to teach our children NOW that they will have to listen to authority tell them no.  Not telling them no as they are small will only et them up for a shock when they get to school and the teacher says, "No, you may not run in the hall, hit the other kids, throw your book..." Or when they get to work and the boss says, 'No, you may not have that day off, be late for work, skip that report".  Reality is full of no's...why shield them from reality?

Answer 8

1.It could be for attention

2.She could have ADHD.

3. the most likely cause is she has learned that there will not be any consequences other than you saying no, and she can live with that. Put her in a pen for a time out and seclude her for 5 minutes, but always give a warning (you can use the word no) Let her out on the condition that she'll be good. this may not work if she is too young to understand all  of this, but it should reinforce the power of "NO" otherwise.