No Offense Inteded At All, But...g*y Guys?

Question

I am so serious about meaning no offense AT ALL, but could someone please explain to me the logic behind g*y guys that act completely flamboyant and bitchy? I have seen one too many guys (I was in theatre for years) excuse their unfriendly, bad behavior by saying they're just "fabulous" or "fierce".

I don't really understand why who you like to have s*x with affects the way you act in your every day life. But it makes me so uncomfortable! Not because I give a d**n about who you sleep with--I SO don't--but because you're rude!

And I don't mean to make sweeping generalizations, obviously this isn't all g*y guys...that would be completely ignorant to say.

Answer 1

Most g*y guys are not  "Flamboyant and Bitchy" most have regular personalities. It's just the flamboyant ones stand out.

Answer 2

There is never an excuse for rudeness...or bad behavior.

Answer 3

I don't get why anyone g*y or straight would want to be bitchy or think that they are fabulous or fierce. I bet they are lonely people because who wants to be around that? It is a major turn off to me. I bet those fem, fabulous, fierce guys are never in a relationship.

Answer 4

Here is a whole blog entry dedicated to giving some explanations for this phenomena.

http://nooffenseben.blogspot.com/2007/11...

Answer 5

Here is the deal.

Flamboyant and bitchy g*y guys are this way because it's the way they are inside. If you take careful notice of their behavior what does it do? It draws attention to them. They are loud, obnoxious and drama is their game. These individuals were starved of attention during their primary developmental stages which are ages 1-7. At this time, they saw that "females" who were assertive got the attention. So, this imprint remains on their brain.

This later develops into a narcissistic personality where they must at all times be the center of attention. It's like a drug if you will.

So, if you've met a flamer, you met ever woman in his life up to the present time including his "assertive" mother.

That's it in a nutshell.

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Answer 6

meh, most of my straight freidns are bitchier than my g*y ones, but i dont' think it means anything. girls are bitchy a lot of the time,a nd g*y guys act like girls, soooo lmao. *cough*

butit might just be the theater thing. not all of them are like that. i think they have a reason to be though, i mean, everyday they get disciminaized against simply cause they're g*y. theydon't have a choice of it, and yet they're hated. ti's wrong. i say let them bitchh.

^_^

Answer 7

I don't know why some guys are like that. I have known straight guys that were exactly the same (flamboyant and bitchy), so it isn't just some g*y guys. There's no accounting for people's personalities. My advice: if someone's personality bothers you, avoid them. If it's someone you care about, talk with them about it.

Answer 8

The same can be said about straight guys, the fact they are g*y is irrelevent.

Answer 9

This is only my personal opinion, and it is based only on my own observations and thoughts.  I may or may not be right. I believe, though, that many g*y guys choose to behave that way for two reasons. First, they believe people will reject them anyway. By providing a reason for that rejection, it is less personal. They don't hate me because of who I really am, they hate me because of this girly behavior. It's a defense mechanism. The second possible cause is societal pressure. Although some men may be naturally more effeminate, there is often an expectation that g*y men will act exaggeratedly feminine. As a result, some g*y men may act that way just because they believe it is what is expected.  

Answer 10

What Kyle said.

The guys who are g*y, that don't stand out, don't act like that.

Answer 11

Lol dats kind of funny...dat u say dat.

Really dat sounds mre like a sterotype dat a lot of g*y guys r bitchy. I mean honestly der is no such thng as a person dats not bitchy. Wat I mean by dat is dat evrybdy is bitchy in sme sort of way. Thnk about it evn nerds or w.e ppl r bitchy in derr own way. I'm a bi male,and I cn b bitchy smetimes but dat doesn't mean dat I am bczz I'm half g*y. Dats not the reason y I'm bitchy lol. =D. Seriously dat was a funny dat u sed dat. Dnt wrry ur not the only1 who thnks dat as well. =D

Answer 12

I am so offended!!!  (Just kidding - no I'm not.)

I know the type you  mean, and yes, it is a type.  Now that I'm an "older" g*y guy, I think I have a little insight into it.

A lot of the people who exhibit that behavior are very young.  I believe it's a lot of immaturity, where they're at a point in their lives where they can only identify with their sexual orientation and little - if anything else else - about who they are as people.  This single-focus identification gives them something to hold on to and there's some sort of security in being "the fierce *****" - i.e. "you can beat me or mock me but I'm SO above you because I'm FIERCE."  Many guys will move beyond this as they start to grow, mature, find the many facets that make up a person.

Of course, some will retain this persona their whole lives.  It's a lack of evolving, maturing, reaching full potential.  Maybe much in the same ways that some women only exist in the "beauty pageant world" or "the mom role" or some people are just "local barflys" or only exist as they relive their glory days.

I think in psychology they refer to as "failure to achieve self-actualization."

Answer 13

No, most aren't, I don't think he was being insulting guys, sheesh, talk about flaming.

Repression can cause people to "act out" and over compensate. They also might like to be the center of attention and approval as society in general gives them persecution issues.

Also, to conform to a flamboyant stereotype, so as to attract other g**s maybe? just a theory.

No excuse for being rude though, but in general the youth of today seem "rude and insolent" to everyone. B!tchyness is just another cultural norm.

Answer 14

As far as I can see, there is no real logic behind said behavior. Those who take it to extremes annoy me to no end. Let me be clear that I am not referring to effeminate guys. I am referring to those who feel the need to be rude and obnoxious in a flamboyant manner that perpetuates a bad stereotype. My guess would be that the ones calling themselves fabulous or fierce are hiding some profound insecurities.  

Answer 15

As was said, there's no excuse for bad behaviour. You'll have bad "seeds" in every group of people, but they express themselves differently. Some are more obnoxious than others.

They may be, as was said, insecure about themselves, and are over-compensating.

Answer 16

idk sum ppl like to be like that and theres sumthin u can do abt it.

just  dont be friends with them.....lol

i hate homophibcs but i dont really complain abt them.

i just ingore them. who cares abt them?