No baby yet, When should I be concerned?

Question

My boyfriend and I've been trying for a baby for 8 months now. We haven't conceived yet. I'm starting to get concerned.

When would you get concerned? When would you get checked out?

Answer 1

If you have been having it regularly for 18 months, then is the time to get checked out.

Don't worry, it can take a long time. Doesn't necessarily mean anything's wrong.

Answer 2

It wouldn't hurt going to your GP for tests.

Although some people take up to 5 years to conceive, it's nothing to be worried about.

Answer 3

Go check out a doctor that doesnt sound good anymore 8 months is a pretty long time I would be concern you both can go see a doctor and they can tell you if there is anything wrong with any of you if not that can help you put you on some pills to help you conceive  

Answer 4

My OB says that he doesn't start looking at any possible issues until about 18 months of trying with no luck. Mother Nature needs a chance to work before it gets prodded into capitulation, after all.

I was perusing a fertility site the other day, and found something that surprised me. Men are just as culpable as women when it comes to the infertility issues. The stats were that in infertile couples, 40% of the time the woman has the issue, and 40% of the time it's the male. The other 20% is either unknown or a combination of the two. (www.fertile.com)

So, if you're having issues, the first step is to tell your OB, then have your partner's sperm checked out. I say this, quite honestly, because it's a LOT easier for him to provide a "sample" for analysis than it is for you to go through a battery of tests, including something called a hysteroscopy (sp), which, judging by its name, doesn't sound like fun!

Have him do the yanky-wanky. If his swimmers turn out to be Michael Phelps wannabes, then it would make sense for you to get checked out. Don't despair, though. There are LOTS of options.

Good luck, sweetie!

Answer 5

A doctor will start looking into it after a year so if you are really anxious, just tell your ob that you have been trying for a year with no success

Answer 6

I have heard if you are under the age of 35, then after a year of trying you can go to a doctor (at least they will take you a little more seriously).  If you are over 35, then it's only 6 months.

I'm entering my 9th month of TTC.  I called my NP to talk to her and see if she recommended an OBGYN.  She told me that the first thing they usually want is for the women to chart her cycles, using basal body temperature.  They want a couple of months at least.  Lucky for us, we just started charting so we should have 4 cycles to show the doctor when we first go in (hopefully we will never have to go in!).  At least we will be one step ahead then.  Plus, I have learned a lot about my cycle this way, although my cycles are pretty regular, so it's nothing surprising.

Many resources online for basal body temp charting.  Lots of users on here go to www.fertilityfriend.com.  I just use a temp/cervical mucous chart and do it the old fashioned way on paper! (I printed a graph from online)

Good luck to you!

Answer 7

what about getting married first then worry about a baby?