No father figure...problems growing up?

Question

Does not having a father figure as a daughter cause problems for the daughter?

My dad has never really been a dad. He has some big anger issues and truthfully I don't think he ever really wanted children. I would trade anything I had to have a great dad that I can look up to. I think it screwed me up in the head not really having a father. My parents are now divorced and I think that it was for the best for them, my brother and me. Sometimes I tell myself, in my head, that no guy would ever care for me like a dad would his daughter. I try to tell myself that that is not true, but I can't help but think it. Is there something wrong with me? How can I find a father figure? It eats at my insides everyday seeing anyone with their daughters. I cry about once a month just get those feelings out. What should I do?

Thanks for reading my long, boring paragraoh. And thanks for your help.

Answer 1

I know how it feels i dont have a dad at all. but yes it can s***w you up but crying helps more than cutting your self but thats what i do. im 13 but i will be 14 in 2 more days.

Answer 2

try talking to your dad about it because if you don't you will be extremely effected by it. And if your dad is still not the role model you want the try and find a male role model outside your family .

Answer 3

it can effect the girl growing up

im 15

and i kno tht girls are closer to ther fathers then moms...

but i dnt hve either

and i kno if i had a son-i would b closer to her than the girl

idk y

i think id leave tht to the dad

Answer 4

You didn't say how old you were. Have you ever thought about a church group or something similar? There may be a father figure in there somewhere. Don't for a second think it screwed you up and that there is something wrong with you. Just remember that you are not the only one who has to get through this. This and other experiences good and bad are a thing called life.

Answer 5

I MEAN I HAD MY DAD THERE BUT HE DRANK ALOT AND HE DID NOT SPEND ALOT OF TIME WITH US IT WAS KINDA HIS BEER WAS FIRST!!BUT I DONT THINK NOT HAVING A DAD IS GONNA MESS WITH UR BEHAVIOR YESSSS U MAY BE VERY MAD AT HIM FOR BEING SUCH A JERK BUT HEY IF U THINK ABOUT AND IF U KNOW HE MISS TREATED UR MOM IT WAS NEVER GONNA STOP U GUYS WOULD HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THAT IN UR LIFE AND ALL THE FAMILY DRAMA MAY HAVE MESSED WITH UR HEAD CAUSE ITS SOO MUCH TO TAKE IN AND HAVING TO GO TO SCHOOL KNOWING U HAVE A BILLION AND ONE PROBLEMS GOING ON AND PRETENDING EVERYTHING IS OK AT HOME!!MAYBE UR MOM WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN AND A FATHER FIGURE WILL ENTER UR LIFE AND HE WILL BE THERE TO HELP ANSWER UR QUESTIONS AND JUST HANG OUT AT TIME!!BUT DONT BLAME URSELF OR BLAME NOT HAVING A DAD OF UR GETTING TROUBLE CAUSE EVERYTHING WILL BE OK!!!TAKE CARE AND WISH U DA BEST N DONT PUT DOWN URSELF!!