No girlfriend for 5 years, could it be karma?

Question

Well, im 20 now and its been about 5 years since I have had my last girlfriend. All the girls I have liked between then and now have either had boyfriends, moved away, or for some other reason just could not be with me.

I have matured alot since then and I'm not really just looking for any girl, I want someone that I can be with, someone to hang out with and just do stuff together with. I have been so lonely for 5 years and every night before I fall asleep, I wonder why I cannot find that one person to be with.

Could it be karma from previous wrong-doings that I have done to previous girlfriends? (Keep in mind I was young and stupid back then...)

My first serious relation ship was in the early years of middle school. I knew the perfect girl that I spent a great deal of my time with. Me and her both liked each other a lot, and we were officially going out. We were going out for a year or maybe two, before one day, for some reason that I cannot think of now or will probably never remember why, I broke up with her. I probably broke her heart, and I feel bad still to this day for doing that.

I also did another horrible thing to another girl I liked (which was after the previous mentioned one). Well one of my friends (thats a girl) called me one night and started talking to me, and asking me questions about my girlfriend. She asked me why I was even going out with that girl, telling me that she didn't like her and stuff. Well, I told her that I was going out with her because I felt sorry for her (yes, I know this was a horrible thing to do). Well, until after I said that, I didn't realize that it was one of her friends that was talking to me, and my girlfriend and like 2 of her other friends were with her and had me on speakerphone. I did not really go out with her because I felt sorry for her, but because I was concerned about what the girl i was talking to would think about me if I said I liked her after giving me the impression that she didn't.

Could it be that karma is getting me back for some of the bad things I have done in the past?

Answer 1

well karma's a b*tch. i'm still waiting for mine X.o

Answer 2

Oh, I'm so sorry. You sound so sweet now. Don't worry, though. This is just a phase that everybody goes through. Your done with school and your not around a lot of people your age anymore, so it's a little trickier to start relationships. I know, I'm going through it too. I definitely agree with chick habit. Try not to be so negative, because I can't count how many times I've unintentionally pushed away a possible boyfriend, good guys too, because of a negative attitude. I regret it everytime, and I don't even remember what I was angry about, just that the guy is completely ignoring me now.

Answer 3

Well, if you believe in karma, its possible.

But karma doesn't take control of everything. Get to know more girls. You can't blend into the wall and expect a girl to come running into your arms.

--Annie

Answer 4

Never had a girlfriend

Answer 5

I don't think it's karma. Karma only happens to does who actually deserve it. And to be honest I don't think you don't. I personally think that you haven't had a girl in a while is because they aren't for you. I like to think everyone in the world has a soul mate or something like it... why? Who knows... I just like to think like that. Heck if karma was going around that means I wont have a boyfriend for a while either... Anyway just give it time. Eventually the right one will come along and things will hit of from the start! Don't be so negative. Sometimes things just happen for a reason. And to be honest... get out more! How do you except to meet anyone when you have no social life! lol Not trying to be mean or anything... Just get out... hang out with some friends... Be more open.. and I honestly don't think you need to apologize. Just move on in life.  

Answer 6

no i don't think you should apologize the past is a past for the reason so do not dwell on what has happened you need to worry about what IS happening. i also doubt that it's "karma" maybe you're trying to hard/looking to hard. i always thought that the right person for me would find ME. and it always worked out that way. i never wanted/searched for a companion they always seemed to find me and that's the approach i think you should take. if anything maybe you should go to a local club/bar and see what happens. be confident don't let life get you down so much. but good luck boo :]

Answer 7

no girlfriend for 17 years.

Answer 8

just get out there and socialise. You are still young.... and while you are have some fun!

they were highschool girlfriends... and everyone has their fair share of upsets.

Don't linger in the past... just have some fun! Good Luck :)

Answer 9

If you had done some really horrible things as an adult I would say yes and you deserve it. I do not believe this is Karma. Maybe you just haven't found the right person. If you are involved with the wrong person and your soul mate comes into your life she will pass you by! I am not saying don't date, and don't enjoy life but don't push it, enjoy the ride---and oh it would make you feel better if you did apologize but I bet they say they haven't thought a bad thing about you since :-)  

Answer 10

No, I wouldn't say it's karma, you were younger than and seriously, how many of us at 15 went on to marry our girlfriends at that time?  I wouldn't worry about too much, you're still young