No jokes please, serious thoughts only. Need advice from a woman?

Question

I posted something yesterday about sending my ex fiance some flowers and got some very interesting responses. I want to send her flowers to her work and flatter her to show that I still have feelings. It has been about almost 3 months since we have seen each other. We talked for the first time two nights ago and it was very pleasant. I am still not sure if I should send them, and if I do, would it be better to do it personally while she's at work or just delivered? Also, should I hold out and wait a little longer being that we just talked for the first time recently? My feelings are strong and has been a long summer, but do not want to push it. She was the one who broke it off.

Answer 1

Since she was the one who broke it off, I would make sure to go slow or you could just upset her again.  If you really want to send her flowers, send them to her home.  I think sending them to her work could be a little intrusive and embarassing, because people are going to ask her who sent them...And she'll have to tell them that it was her ex, and then people will be curious and wanting an explanation.  Since you aren't really together yet, she might not want to explain the situation to co-workers.  Flowers.com is a good site and they will deliver them to her home.  Then she won't be in the company of anyone else when she recieves them.  Good luck!

Answer 2

aww =( sounds really serious well i would not want to mess up anything but maybe try taking her for a nice dinner and just be honesty with her tell her you have been thinking a lot and tell her what you feel hun =] maybe that will help

good luck =]

Answer 3

Flowers would be to much right now. Just let her know you are there and that you are willing to talk. Don't push or seem over anxious, you may push her away. Don't expect to much, she may just be lonely and knows you will fill the void. Take it slow for your own sake.

Answer 4

i need to know why she broke it off before i can answer anything...  

Answer 5

If she was the one who broke it off i would suggest waiting a little. You don't want her to feel pressured. Besides there is no guarantee that she wants to get back together, she may just want to be friends. Just be patient and see what happens. If she doesn't want to be with you.. move on.

Answer 6

Don't deliver them yourself.  That would just be a bad idea, especially if she broke up with you.

Why did you break up?

Sometimes ppl are just not meant for each other.

Answer 7

I admire you for being brave enough to put your feelings out there like that. My question to you is this: Are you willing to be shot down if she rejects you? I mean she might take you back with open arms but it could happen. And do yoou want her back b/c you miss her or do you miss the companionship you know if anything will change to improve the relationship so that you will not become an ex again? It is a romantic gesture but their is a lot of work behind your gesture. Ask yourself if you are willing to work out the relationship this time? If so then go for it. Good luck!

Answer 8

I think sending her flowers would initate another conversation. It would be a great idea. You may want to put on the card something along the lines of, it was great talking looking forward to the next time. This will let her know how much you enjoyed it and that it is ok for her to have enjoyed it. At the same time, it keeps you from appearing desperate to be with her or trying to push her into anything. It is a great idea, just be careful not to put too much emotion in it. You said that she broke it off, so let her be the one to fire it back up, just be there when she is ready. I hope this helps.

Answer 9

I would send them because everyone likes getting flowers, but in the card I would put something simple like "Just thinking of you", or "I'm here if you need to talk".  That way it doesn't scare her away.

Answer 10

If she broke it off, she had some reason (valid or not) for doing so.  If she is interested, she will be flattered but if she's not it may make her uncomfortable and could backfire.  Honestly, I recommend giving her space... but don't sit around waiting on her.  Go out and enjoy yourself.  If she is really interested in rekindling anything she will let you know soon.

Answer 11

seriously dont send her nothing let her be the one that calls you or look for you and if she does well she still got feelings for you and then you can send her w/e you want.

Answer 12

im a bloke, an in my opinon if u w8 to long, sum1 cud snap her up.

so my advice is GO FOR IT

Answer 13

Send the flowers to your mother and move on.... there are 6 billion people on this planet, more than half of them are women.

Go find another nice girl who is pleasant to talk with!

Answer 14

you should wait till you talk to her two more times than have flowers sent to her but not roses something simple like daises. don't move to fast you will scare her off  

Answer 15

I would say that if she was the one who broke it off, maybe going to her office to deliver flowers would be too much. Also, since you've only spoken one time since you broke up, that might also be too much. To show her that you still care, sending flowers is a nice gesture, but I would "back off" a little and have them delivered. Write a short note saying "I enjoyed our convo the other night" or "I still think about you". Good luck!!

Answer 16

I would want you to respect my decision to break it off. Still, that dosne't mean you can't be friends, if you're talking happily continue with that. If things go well, you could try some small advance and see how she reacts, but don't go to fast and if she makes any indication that she wants you to back off, respect it.  

Answer 17

I would suggest having the flowers delivered to her home rather than her work. Being at work, she may feel too smothered and she may have to deal with explaining to her coworkers who the flowers are from, etc... She may not be ready to explain those feelings to her coworkers since it is so soon. If you have them delivered to her house, there is no pressure in having to explain. Just drop a note with the flowers thanking her for the pleasant conversation. This is only a suggestion, you should do what you feel is right in your heart. Just don't go overboard. Let us know how it turns out - Good Luck :)

Answer 18

Send the flowers to her work but get them delivered, wait for her to respond by contacting you after she gets them. Sounds like you want to be romantic that's really cool. May I also suggest if you get a positive response to the flowers then perhaps next week send her lunch. You've been with her before so you should know what she likes to eat, but get it delivered to her work. That's a nice gesture.I think it's best for you to do nice things but let her do the contacting you, that way you can feel out the situation before you make a fool of yourself.

Answer 19

that is sooo sweet some women would love to have a man like you. So here is my advice life is too short to waite if you love her as much as you say you do show her. flowers by delivery is sweet and special. showing up in person at her work place is not a good Idea, and a little overbearing. Good Luck I wash you all the happiness.  

Answer 20

I would wait awhile longer to see if this is going to go anywhere first.

Maybe send her a card, nothing romantic, just a "it was very nice talking to you...." type card and see what sort of response that gets from her. You dont want to be pushy and scare her off.  With me it's the little things my bf does for me that mean the most.  Good luck!