No judging please i really need help. am i a normal person? ?

Question

im a young teenager, not saying my age and i have experimented with drugs,alchol,and smoking. i didnt like pot and dont do smoking but i have come to like alcohol and drink on a regular basis. after a really embarrasing thing happened with the alcohol i dont want to drink as much anymore, or be like people who i know. i have a reputation as a bad girl but im not like that at all! i hate it and i dont know what to do. please help, but dont be harsh cause i cant take it

Answer 1

You are a teenager so it is not too late to change.  Please be someone who learns from their mistakes and do not repeat them.  You can still be cool without doing those things.  School should be starting soon so start a new school year start a new you.  Everyone has made mistakes but what you do after the mistake is what shows what kind of person you really are.  

Answer 2

As painful as it may seem now, you have to remove yourself from that lifestyle and the people that live it. Yes, they will give you a hard time, but you need to look after yourself. Find new things to do, and new people to do them with. If your old party crowd tries to pull you back in, just remind yourself that you don't like the person you are becoming in that crowd and stay out.

I know this seems drastic, but it is necessary. If you stay in contact with a drinking crowd and lifestyle, you will eventually fall back in. If there is anyone you really want to stay friends with, invite that person out for coffee, or other activities that don't involve alcohol. And if they do insist on a drink or a toke, just leave.

Good luck.

Answer 3

listen to me if you are young you do not need to drink it is a artificial feeling and as you said you can make a fool of yourself .allot of times alcohol leads to harder drugs and in my family i have seen first hand how they can ruin lives (brother is homeless)and no matter how i try to help it doesn't work and they grow to use other people so just take it easy you are young and have your whole life ahead of you , i hope i wasn't harsh in anyway because i am just trying to help not judge

good luck and be well

Answer 4

I think you should stop the drinking for a while, at least until its legal for your age. That isn't so much about laws but for other reasons below:).

You do sound pretty normal to me- a lot of teenagers experiment with that kind of stuff. The problem starts when they aren't experimenting anymore and start doing it regularly. When you're young you are more prone to developing addiction to substances because of the way your brain is forming. Also addictions that form at your age are harder to break and its hard to know exactly when your fun drinking becomes alcoholism.

If you're drinking alcohol regularly and you like it and you do embarrassing stuff when you drink, I would say you may be the type of person who needs to be very careful with it. It is OK to drink socially and occasionally and not get drunk enough to be embarrassing, but maybe not OK the way you're doing it. I think you should stop for a while until you're a bit older and you can deal with the alcohol and prevent the negative effects of drinking (bad reputation, embarrassment, etc) a little better:)

Just change for yourself, it sounds like you want to stop so do it?. Some people might think its weird or not hang out with you so much and some might think you're still bad, but in that case you probably didn't have much of a real relationship with them anyway.  

Answer 5

you got the bad girl reputation by drinking and smoking and hanging out with certain crowds. Theres nothing you need to do but be careful, you care about people opinion too much. Be responsible and thats all that matters ;)

Answer 6

Show people you are a good girl change is WONDERFUL especially in this situation alcohol is just as addicting as other drugs coming from having an alcoholic / drug addicted father  it WILL ruin your life if you let it, as a young teenager you have the whole world at your fingertips grab it further your education break your cycle show people who you are and how important you are & will be someday.

another note on drugs and alcohol I had my life long friend / cousin get killed last year by a DRUNK driver she was taken from us but most of all TAKEN from her 3 small children ages 2 (twin daughters) & a 6 yr old son who sat in the seat beside & behind her watching her die and the twins will NEVER know their mother and her son will have small memories mostly pictures  so if the first reason wasnt good enough to kick the habbit NOW this should be BEST wishes & God bless

Answer 7

Normal teenage girls do not "drink on a regular basis"