No man has the right to dictate to any women when she can or cant see her children?

Question

this includes any judge. I know Diana is in a better place now

I also know she wanted to move to America, but she could never have taken her sons, which means she could not live the life she wished because she had someone controlling her. to never see your children on Christmas day which she didnt is a monstrous thing to do and I know because I dont see mine on Christmas day,because their father has been allowed to play with their minds and manipulate them. He thought he was going to control me after years of misery he thought I would beg him to take me back if he took the children, No women should ever let this happen. I have written a book to tell my children this. I love and miss them everyday,but I will not let anyone control me emotionally or financially. That is why If I had my time over I would choose to be a single parent. What do you think about this?

Answer 1

Hello,

                Yes you are correct no man should ever dictate to a

woman you were not put on this earth to be controlled and I think men like this are just scum of the earth and I am really

proud of you as a woman for writing a book to tell your children the thing is I believe what goes round comes round

and he will get his day I just hope he has to live on his own for the rest of his life he's nothing but a rotter good on you for standing up for yourself there should be more women like you

you are amazing and you have guts fantastic! you deserve a

medal.

Answer 2

firstly what about the women who hurt their children or drug addict mothers where the father took the children away for their protection?

you have a narrow view probably due to your experiences but women do what you describe all the time but nothing is done to help the fathers there.  in regard to Diana she new what the score was with the royal family long before she married them and knew what to expect in that life and if she didn't she is as stupid as her grades in school suggest as her only hope at the time was find a decent husband. and she knew Camilla was their before the wedding. she was a younger more attractive woman and if she had wanted she could of put cammila out of the picture becouse like most men do the right thing and they are butter. she was a saw looser and would manipulative any one she could and those she couldn't she turned on.

Answer 3

No woman has the right to dictate to any man when he can or cant see his children?

this includes any judge.

same for men to as women

Answer 4

You have to assume she wanted to see her children.    As it was said at the time, if she'd been at Balmoral, surrounded by half the police force of Scotland, it wouldn't have happened.

There's nothing wrong with a night out on the town but there's where she was.    It was an accident that happened partly because of photographer's trying to make a buck from her image.  

Would she go to America?  Or, would she have stood by her children and supported the next king?   I think that if she had lived, she would have done what she had to do to preserve her son's place and future, as any good mother would have done.

Answer 5

If the mother's a threat to the children, whether it be from drugs, metal disorder, or some other reason, then yes the father has every right to keep the kids safe.  It the mother isn't a threat in any way, then she should have just as much right to see the kids as the father does.

Answer 6

Men don't have the right to be fathers then? They are as much a parent as the woman - It wasn't only the 'blessed Diana' who couldn't move where she wanted ( how selfish, what about the schooling, the friends, the family?) Nobody who gets divorced in the UK can just remove the children without the other parents consent - they do, but legally, they are not supposed to be able to - Get over it! I think you should have chosen not to have any children with a man you didn't love or even like - those were your own words in another post.

Answer 7

No father should have his children taken away either. My husband's first wife moved away with his younger son years ago. We have no idea where she went, in spite of all the time we spent trying to find him.

That son phoned his father on Christmas last year and they were able to tell them how much they loved each other for the first time in 30 years. In spite of all the lies he had been told, he knew that his father had never given up searching for him and hoping to see him again.

Children are not that easily deceived, and they should never be used as weapons against a partner. They will know it and resent being manipulated.

Answer 8

get real if diana chose to move to america then she chooses not to be with her children no one is forcing her to move away, same with you your choosing not to see your children, the dad is letting you but you wont y coz u dont want him controlling u, you dont need to see him to see your children, anyway how come hes got custody of the children, usually the mum gets custody unless a judge or social sevices deem you to be unfit to look after your children, im a father myself but never married my ex, when we split she refused to let me see my children i went threw solicaters but got nowhere, she eventually put the children into care coz i wouldnt go back to her, and chose to go threw court, i never got to see my children for over a year, i finnaly found out that she had stopped me seeing them, and coz i had no parental responsibility i had no hope, but i kept fightin social services finnaly let me see them and i proved myself to them and proved everything she had said was lies, i went to court got parental responsibility, got my kids out of care were they went to live with my mum, and even now 3years on the childrens mum is stillmanaging to  block them coming to live with me, so instead of things goin smoothly ive now got to go back to court to get custody, the childrens mum has been told she will never have them living with her she only sees them 3 times a year there 9 and 8, but she is spiteful, but i could of done wat yoo and many parents do and give up on my children, and thought theyll come to me when there ready and i can blame everyone else for me not seeing them, but then wat kind of father would i be, ive been fighting for them for 3 years and ile carry on fighting doin wat ever it takes, if i never win or there 18 before they can come to me at least i can say i tried. people put fathers down that dont bother with there children but wat about the ones that do but spiteful mothers refuse them accsess, and wat about the mothers who dont care if they see there children or not, righting a book saying u miss them and love them everyday may make you feel better about yourself but it will mean very little to your children when there older, theyll want to no y you never bothered with them. that will be a good question? how will you answer it? blame there dad? blame a judge? you can only blame yourself and believe me your children will. i no u wont like wat ive said to u but its the truth you need to wake up and find a way to see your children, you can go threw social services and get supervised contact your ex wont be aloud to be there, prove your a good mother and make amends for the time youve missed out on. good luck hun.

Answer 9

Who is the man who has dictated to you?  Do you mean your husband?  If so, don't tar every man with the same brush.

Also, why make such a big deal of Christmas Day?  Surely you love your children 360 days of the year, and no one day is more special than any other.  If you're so concerned about it, I suggest you have your own special, personal Christmas Day with your children in the week before Christmas.

As a final thought, which might be of some comfort, remember that he might have day to day influence over the children now, but as they mature they will begin to make their own choices and decisions.  You will be able to explain events to them from your perspective.  It will be then that they will judge both him and you.

Answer 10

they arnt your sons you one half of the parents you dont own them

if you were not allowed to see them things must be very very very bad with your mental health

Answer 11

i agree.... humans have already understand the meaning of the term "equality." and in your case, theres someone who violated your rights against this... but what i disagree is your choice to be a single parents... try to find any solution...im on your back..

Answer 12

I think you are a very angry and unhappy person - and quite rightly so by the sound of it.  However, you can only try your best to see your children whenever you can and buy them theri birthday and chritmas presents.  No mattter what you think you must NEVER EVER say anything against their father to them as this will only make them turn against you ;  I have found that if you never criticise the other parent to the children - no matter how hard it is - eventually they see through that parent for themselves.  If they ever ask why they cannot be with you for whatever occasion - whenever- just say 'I would love to be with you for -----but I am not allowed to be because a judge said so'.    Go and get yourself a full time job and keep yourself busy and be reday for the day they come to you - it may be some years but it will happen.    My own daughter cannot stand her father but she remembers that I never said a word against him and has made her own mind up based on his behaviour  not mine.  I think Motgomery B is a very unwise man who should have let the children make their own minds up over time and not influenced them - eventually it will backfire on him.

Answer 13

I think that with appropriate therapy, you might be in a better position to convince decisionmakers of your parental fitness.

Answer 14

first off,how come your husband got the kids? .maybe you were a bad mother ,nobody can take their children out of their country without permission so there's no big deal in that,its sounds to me that its just sour grapes on your part,

Answer 15

Are you also saying No woman has the right to dictate to any man when he can or can't see his children?

Answer 16

You would choose to be a single Parent.

You just lost my vote right there.

What right do YOU have to deprive children of their Father just because you don't like him any more. Sounds to me like you are a man hater and would raise your children likewise.

You should be happy now that you are alone and can do as you please.Luckily you Don't have your time over. Shut up Whining and get on with your miserable single life.

Answer 17

I think you have a real bee in your bonnet.

Answer 18

i agree.

Answer 19

This is the male ego, power and control not just over women but many others, some males have not yet evolved from their primitive ways, No woman should be separated from their children and to those that have not gone through this would not understand the pain it suffers.

So until the male can accept the female as his equal they will be in power a long time, come on men shed your ape like control feel free.

Answer 20

So if a woman is a drug abuser and abuses her kids she has the right to se her children. I'm not suggesting that Diana was either a drug abuser or abused her kids, by all accounts she was a loving mother.

If she had moved she could have taken Harry but not William, because as William is in direct line to inherit the throne, the Queen has the final say over his education up until he was 18.

Answer 21

I'll bet your book is self-published!

Answer 22

It depends on the character of the woman. I will not let my ex-wife see the children because she was unfaithful several times, devious, a liar, a cheat and a thief. She told lies against others to get people on her side.

No man would want his children to be part of that woman`s way of life. The children agree also and want nothing to do with her.